It's always so weird looking back and thinking of how a friendship came about. It's also crazy to think that someone so important to you was once a stranger. There was a point in your life where you didn't even know this person existed. You went through life thinking you had everything you needed when in reality you had no idea that you were lacking such a great friendship and even a chunk of who you are.
How did you even survive without them? Even crazier than this is when there was a point in your life where you knew this friend of yours existed, but you viewed them as someone that you would never become friends with in the first place. You may have talked to them a few times, had a few classes together, or even had mutual friends, but you never thought anything more of them. Heck, you may not have even liked them. And then all of a sudden, you blink and this person is suddenly your other half. You're not even sure if there was a defining moment or if it happened little by little. All you know is that now you can't imagine being without their friendship, love and support.
It's hard to wrap my head around this, but of three of my best friends, I never imagined being friends with any of them when I first met them. I thought one of them was a little crazy and didn't think we would have anything in common with each other. The second one, I thought was a bit stuck up and too talkative for me. The third one, I just didn't think we would mesh well or vibe together.
It's kind of crazy because now, I can't imagine doing life without them. I don't know what I would do without their constant laughter and ability to always know what I'm thinking and how to cheer me up. I have made so many wonderful memories because I have had these girls by my side to push me along and to encourage me to live life to it's fullest.
This just goes to show that you should never ever judge a book by its cover or their friend group or the stereotype you assume they fall under. You honestly don't know anything about a person or their character until you have sat down and had an actual conversation with them. You can assume what you want and think you know a person, but give them a chance. Chances are you couldn't be further from the truth.
Not only should you not assume anything about a person, but you shouldn't let any differences that you think you may have get in the way of getting to know them better or possibly creating a great friendship. Friends of mine who I originally thought were too crazy, too talkative, too outgoing, too quiet, too smart, and so one actually turned out to have the characteristics that I didn't even know I needed in my life.
That girl I thought was too crazy for me? She is one of the most genuine people I have ever met and I look to her for constant guidance and good energy. That girl I saw as stuck up and too talkative? She understands me in ways that I never thought possible and helps me break out of my shell. That girl I thought I would never mesh well with? We might as well be the same person in two different bodies.
You don't have to be exactly alike in order to be friends with someone. In reality, you actually appreciate that person more when they aren't your splitting image. A good friend will bring out the best of you, and if they have certain attributes that you lack, they can bring out a side of you that you didn't even know you had.
So before you go ahead and write someone off as a person you wouldn't get along with, how about you actually try to get along with them? Talk to them and actually try to get to know them. Open your mind to new possibilities. You could surprise yourself. Sometimes the best friendships are the ones you least expected.
