My parents always told me to set the bar high in relationships. Some people say that people have way too high of standards or that their standards are ridiculous. My parents said differently. They said that you should never lower your standards. They said that one day the right guy will come along and meet them, and if he doesn't then he's not the one.
So why do we set our standards so low? Why do we settle for people we don't even see a future with? Why do we let guys who say #wcw or girls who say #mcm instill in us a false sense of love and security? Our society has developed a mindset that just because someone posts about you on social media, then you have the "greatest relationship" ever or that they're "the one."
But that's not the mindset we should have. We shouldn't settle for someone who doesn't look at us with utter admiration and love. We shouldn't settle for someone who puts us as the last priority on their list. We shouldn't settle for someone who just happens to call us every time they're bored or when no one else has answered their call. We shouldn't settle for someone who doesn't have the same values, morals, or beliefs in their lives.
We settle for less than we deserve out of loneliness and that's the worst way to settle. Our generation has lost all sense of "the chase." We let ourselves become available for "booty calls" or one night stands. We lose respect for ourselves and in in return lose the respect of the person we settle for.
Settling is never the answer. You should never settle for someone just because no one else is available. It's so much better to be single and waiting for someone else than falling into the trap of our generation that says being single isn't an option.
Be single. Go out and have fun with your girls or with your guys. Don't let the idea that you have to be in a relationship dictate your life. Find yourself. Breathe. Let yourself take time to become a better person.
Nelson Mandela said it best:
"There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living."
