Separation is such a scary thing. Whether the separation is physical or emotional, the idea of someone or something no longer being “there” is pretty devastating.
This can happen for many reasons. Someone can lose feelings for you. Someone could realize that the person they thought you were isn’t the person you actually are. And the worst and most heart-wrenching reason of all: they could just prefer their life without you in it. This can happen in relationships, or with friendships. A best friend who you’ve told every secret to, shared every good memory with and been there with for years can decide one day that their lives are better without you in it. In the same way, someone who you’ve been interested in for a while, maybe even dated for a little bit, can decide that they would rather not be with you. Both of these situations are absolutely heartbreaking. It feels like the pain of someone no longer wanting to be in your life will last forever. You feel like you'll never love again. You feel like you weren't good enough. You feel like it's your fault. Believe me, I’ve been there so many times, and it’s one of the worst pains I’ve ever felt. But the good news is, it doesn’t last forever. Though sitting alone and wallowing in the pain is riveting, there is something much better to fall back on. No matter what rut you’re in, or what valley you’re walking through, the way out is always there, regardless of whether or not we believe it’ll happen. The pain is excruciating, but it happens for a reason.
Psalm 34:18 states that, “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” This means that regardless of how deep your pain is, the Lord is right there next to you. The Lord, “heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds,” Psalm 147:3 states, promising that everything is going to be okay regardless of the intensity of the pain. Revelation 21:4 says that, “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away." The sadness and heartbreak will be healed, and God’s glory will be revealed.
Believing this in a time of desperation and devastation is so difficult, and honestly, we don’t want to. But, it’s absolutely essential. It’s the only way to get through it, trust me. “For we walk by faith…” -2 Corinthians 5:7. Believe it, and your wounds will be healed. We have to trust that what’s happening in our lives is what’s supposed to be happening, and that the Lord will never lead us somewhere that won’t be used for His glory in the end.
