Why It's Actually Important To Put Yourself First
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Why It's Actually Important To Put Yourself First

Because self-care isn't selfish at all.

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Why It's Actually Important To Put Yourself First
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As a person who looks out for other people - I get it. But sometimes you have to realize your limitations and that you can't always do everything for everyone - and that's OK.

In society today, there's an odd idea that putting one's self first is selfish. Yet, how are we - as emotional beings - supposed to put other's needs above our own, when we must focus first on what we need in order to extend our energy onto other relationships?

The theory that we must be happy with ourselves, before trying to care for others is a key factor in building and maintaining relationships with our loved ones. By focusing instead on ourselves first, we are then able to give and care from a place found deep within - one that is driven by the love and need of the other person, no matter the boundaries of the relationship.

Take for instance a time when you were unusually exhausted. This lack of energy and motivation drives not only HOW you act through these emotions, but also how you interact WITH these emotions. When a person is burnt out, no matter what else they might want to accomplish, they are unable to maintain a need other than the feeling they are lacking. This can have a negative impact on our relationships with others, whether they be romantic, friendly or cordial.

Not only does this lack of energy harm our relationships - it can physically make a person ill. Lack of rest, self-care and rejuvenation all lead to additional stress on the body. This tole, over time, accumulates and can negatively impact a person's future health, on top of their relationships and friendships.

So, the next time you are in need of some alone time, whether it's to gather your thoughts, plan out your day, or to simply take a nap, remember to listen to your mind and body. Trust me - your loved ones will thank you later.

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In need of some self-care tips? Check out the list below:

1. Write down a list of your goals - both long and short-term.

And maybe even add a few you have even recently accomplished, in order to keep yourself motivated and remind yourself of where you've been.

2. Create a cozy place, whether that be your bed, a chair or a fort built with bedsheets on your floor.

Toss in a few throw pillows and blankets; maybe add some twinkly lights and books. Anything to up your cozy game.

3. Say no.

It's 100% OK to realize your limitations and restrictions. Rather stay in on a Friday night than go out for another booze-filled weekend? That's OK and your friends will understand - they've been there before too.

4. Clean - and I mean really clean.

That old dress hanging in your closet you haven't worn in 2 years? Sell it to a consignment shop or donate it to your local thrift store. The fridge you've been meaning to clean out for weeks, but haven't? Grab a sponge and some cleaner and get to it. You'll feel all fresh and clean once you're living space is on that same level. Spring cleaning at any moment of the year can make anyone feel like a brand new person.

5. Finally, start something new.

Take a moment and think back to all those times you said you would start a project or a book "later." Now, is later. Pick up those unopened novels, or that sketched out arts and craft idea and get to it. You'll feel accomplished and motivated once again.

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