I will start by saying that there is nothing wrong with young parents. Kudos to them because they are working hard. Being a parent is the hardest job out there. This being said, there is no chance that I will be having kids in the next few years. I really am not “about that life.” Honestly, the thought of kids at this minute makes me want to puke. Let us also remember that my lovely parental units will kill me for making them grandparents so young.
I do not have the money. Honestly, I do not pay for a whole lot, but I pay for enough to-for sure-not have enough money for diapers, formula, clothes, and hospital bills. There is just no way and I make decent money at my job. It is just not decent enough to try to raise a baby. My boyfriend and I are trying to move out and get our own apartment, but that is already costly enough. I do not have enough money to get a babysitter or daycare along with trying to pay for textbooks, rent, car, and phone.
I simply do not have the time to try to raise a baby. As a full time student who works 25-30 hours a week at work, time is money. There is never enough time. I spend my mornings trying to do a week load of homework for four to five classes, and I spend my three o’clock through late evening at work. When I have a kid, I want to be able to spend time with them and not have to be with my child for a few weeks and then go back to being completely unavailable.
Personally, I absolutely love still being a child myself. My boyfriend and I get to decide that we want to leave town in a few weeks and we do it. I enjoy being able to have my youth and my freedom. I am absolutely in love with being able to just grab my purse and keys and leave the house to go shopping or grab food. There are days where I will just go out all day and come home randomly. I also pick up shifts at work or switch shifts without having to think of someone else in the process.
Lastly, I have spent the past few years helping around the house with my youngest siblings. Currently, they are five and six. I spent a lot of time helping with daily activities. Do not get me wrong, I love them more than anything. However, it helped me realize that children are absolutely the hardest things you have to take care of.
That is that. I do not want to be a parent right now. Again, this is nothing against young parents because many of my classmates have had children and are doing great. I just do not want to be like them. I do plan to have kids in the future. The future is just not that near. I am still a baby myself, so why should I have a baby?