You know when you're in that relationship with someone where you're not just friends anymore, but there hasn't been any defined relationship either? The one most people call "talking"? Almost everyone hates this, yet we still do it. No one wants to commit to anything, no one wants that kind of obligation, yet we still find ourselves in this position time and time again.

What I hate even more than this talking phase is when you try to define the relationship. It's a simple question that sends most guys running far, far away in the opposite direction: What are we? Where do we stand? And you want to know what I hate even more than trying to define the relationship? When they respond with, "We don't need a title. We have a bond and that's even stronger."

Well, let me tell you something about these "title-less" relationships: they aren't real. I agree that a bond and connection will always be stronger than a title you slap onto your relationship, but what I don't agree with is that's the go-to answer every time. To me, that just translates into "you're not the only girl/guy I'm talking to. I don't want to commit. I don't like you enough to be in a fully committed relationship with you and only you. I want to mess around with as many people as I can."

I hate this answer because it means that you are being selfish. It means that you are not taking the other person's feelings into consideration. You want what you want and you don't care if anyone actually gets hurt from it or not. You want the benefits of a relationship without the commitment, but what kind of relationship is that? If you can't see yourself marrying the person you're "talking" to, then why are you wasting your time and wasting their time? A relationship should be used for finding the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and if you can't see that kind of future with someone, do yourself and them a favor and end it.

You don't need a title to have a connection with someone, but it's nice to have it when you're both committed to each other. It's a perk of being in a relationship and if you want that title, you deserve to have that. You don't deserve to have someone brush that comment aside like it's nothing.

So, ladies and gents, next time someone you're talking to says this to you, reconsider where you stand with them. Ask yourself if you can see a future with them and decide if it's something you want to fight for. Determine if it's even worth it because I promise you that it's probably not. I promise that you're better than that and I promise you deserve the world.