Some people have been blessed to have found a picture perfect significant other within their high school years. They were each other’s prom dates, first kisses, and somehow managed to make their relationship last throughout the trying and tempting freshman year of college.

Others on the other hand were not so lucky to pick from the minimal pool of Nike sock, gym short boys who roamed the halls of their hometown high school. They always thought “there will be sooooo many more guys in college. Yes, there are now a couple thousand of new guys in your freshman class, but about ten would be an honorable boyfriend. Best of luck.

Modern dating absolutely sucks.

There is no “dating” anymore. Typically, girls are not asked on actual dates until they are magically in a relationship with the boy they have been “talking” to for at least a month. College does not help the situation whatsoever. Everyone wants to have fun and “not be tied down." Where does that get us? Great memories? Absolutely. Any hope of finding a boyfriend? NO. Modern relationships literally bud off of social media. He will like all of your Instagram pictures, and favorite a couple of your tweets. Then a few days later maybe he will add you on Snapchat and start sending you snaps. You won’t receive an actual text or invite to do anything for at least a couple weeks. Even texting has become too committed too soon.

The zone of unknown is so common. Well he came over last night so shouldn’t he text me? Am I allowed to dance with other guys tonight? Well I don’t want him dancing with other girls, but I can’t say that because he will think I’m crazy. What the heck are the rules? It’s a legit free for all out there with no loyalty and the stress of not being tied down, but then you are tied down because he doesn’t want you talking to other guys although he won’t make things official.

The jumble of my last paragraph is the best example of why modern dating sucks. So in the meantime, while social media flirting hopefully dies down, and people remember what it’s like to be asked on a date. Go have fun and don’t worry about the no text back, the opened snapchat with no response, or the bag of insecurities we have which they themselves create. You can play the same game, and when they step up and change the world of modern dating, we can too.