Finding love…the struggle is real.

You have those days where you feel like everyone around you is happily in love and your'e wondering when your perfect guy is going to come sweep you off your feet.

First of all, I believe in dating to marry. Why would anyone want to waste their precious time on anyone that they don’t see themselves having a future with?

In our childhood days, we would see a cute boy and automatically think “Hey maybe that’s my husband”, well as we get older we see that it’s not that easy.

Finding a guy that actually fits all (or most) of our qualities we want in a man is hard.

HARD.

The bible says “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Finding that person who is there to lift you up when you fall is so important, because in life it’s nice to have someone that we know we can always have by our side and count on no matter what.

I think as young adults it’s so easy for us to get so caught up in the idea of finding someone to love that we forget how important it is that we truly love ourselves first. I can personally think back to times when I would ask the Lord when was he going to send me someone that loves me and I kept patiently waiting, but I think because I wasn’t happy within myself is the reason why it didn’t happen when I wanted it to.

Patience is key.

Everyone always says to go out and have fun, date around because these are the best years of our lives. I have to say that I disagree, I got tired of hearing the words “just go have fun”, and “date around”, why does anyone want to date around with someone that’s only for fun and has no benefits to your future? I surely didn’t.

So, what did I do? I prayed, remained content, and found myself.

You have to reach a point of knowing that God is going to send you the perfect guy for you in his own timing.

While everyone is so caught up in finding a guy, spend that time on yourself, grow in your faith, figure out all the things that make you happy and once you move that focus away from “finding love”, it’s going to jump in your lap when you least expect it.

Most importantly though, don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. Once you reach that point of contentment within yourself you will understand your worth, and what kind of guy is worthy of loving you.

I spent so much time waiting and wondering when I was going to find the love that I knew I deserved, and when I had the patience and hope that it took, it came out of no where. I found my prince charming, and yours is on the way too.