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Why It's Okay to Have High Standards

Without them, you won't know what you deserve

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“He’s a year younger than me”.

“She’s not on the honor roll”

“He isn’t the same religion as me”.

Face it. We’ve all been there. We all place “labels” on a guy or girl because they aren’t what we are or what we want, but this isn’t necessarily degrading someone. It’s simply having high standards.

There are some high standards in today’s world that actually make sense. Examples include: wanting a guy that you are attracted to, a girl that can be a great mother, and so on. There are other examples that eventually turn into excuses. When a girl says “he’s not taller than me”, or if a guy says “she doesn’t like sports”, it means they haven’t found the right person yet because their standards will not be met. Those standards were just meant for another person. Picking these characteristics out does not mean they are wrong for being them. It simply means that they are meant for another person. It’s not okay to judge someone, but it IS okay to tell yourself “No, we are not meant to be”. If you are able to realize this, it means you know what you deserve- and that’s a good thing!

By having high standards, you will have to remind yourself that it’s okay to be single. It’s okay to wait for “the one”. We tend to feel lonely or jealous when we see happy couples in our daily life. Yes, there are times where sometimes we go down a dark road that takes us to the temptation of wanting to settle for someone who isn't right for us. This is the time where we forget about those high standards and find every way possible to get that special someone to like us. We turn into something we never thought we would be, and we do things for people that don’t deserve it. These actions will lead to regret because we rushed into something that we knew our hearts didn’t want. This all happened because we didn’t want to wait. Eventually, that relationship will possibly lose its spark, and you’ll be reminded of those high standards you once had. All the things you want in your future spouse will be a part of them, and he or she will live every single day trying to meet them.

Please know this is what having high standards is all about; you deserving better. You deserve more than the impact society has on love. You don’t have to give yourself away because that special love hasn’t shown up yet. You deserve a spouse that is going to pursue you into being the best person you can be. No, they won’t be everything that is on your list of being the best spouse. In this world, they won’t be perfect, but if they meet those standards, they will be perfect in yours. It is that kind of love that you will want to fight for. The kind of love that you will want to hold on to, forever.

The only hard part is finding the right person who will provide that love. This “search” is not going to be easy. It will take time and patience; some things we don’t always have. Because love requires sacrifice, it will be difficult to wait for what you deserve, but I can guarantee you, it will be worth the wait.

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