I am known by everyone to be a people person. When a situation of conflict arises, I am trying to solve the problem and find a solution as soon as possible. Recently there have been a lot of people coming and going in my life, and I've been very distraught about this. I have been blaming myself and constantly looking for what it is about myself that drives these people out of my life. What could I possibly do better to prevent this from happening again? I don't want to lose any more friends. However, after thinking about it for a while, I realized that I am not the problem.

Friends come and go in life. That's why it is so special to have that one best friend that stays with you for years at a time. It doesn't mean that we are bad people or that we ourselves are the reason that a friend was lost. Sometimes in life you lose friends — it's a part of life. Does that mean that you or the lost friend did something wrong? No. Not at all. You have served your purpose in that friendship and helped that person to the best of your ability. Easily put, you have passed the moments of positive vibes in your friendship.

We need to stop blaming ourselves for the process called life. You lose friends in life. There's no way of preventing that or gaining those friends back sometimes, and we simply can't stress ourselves out about that fact to the point of no return. We must pick up the pieces and move on. There will always be another door that opens when one door closes. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason.

So, for friends that used to be very close to me and we have fallen apart or to the friends that had conflicts with me and we never resolved those, I hope you don't take it personally, but I am moving on. I'm putting you behind me for the betterment of my life. I've served my purpose in your life, and I'm saying goodbye.