Ever watch a Facebook video and it just stick with you? One time I watched a video about a man on The Steve Harvey Show who talked about one of his favorite books, "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and about how people receive love differently. He talks about how we often love people the way we want to be loved and how that's one of the biggest mistakes a person can make.
Here's the video:
After I watched this video, I thought about how much it made sense. People receive love differently. I ended up not really thinking too much about it until I started working as an RA. For my RA class, we had to take the Myers Briggs Personality Quiz, and then we started talking about love languages. I realized that there was a quiz that I could take to find out what my love language is. I also learned that there are 5 different love languages: receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch, quality time and words of affirmation. After taking almost every love language quiz on the Internet, I found out that my love language is a mixture of quality time and words of affirmation. Now what does this mean? Well, it means that I personally like to spend time with the ones I love and when people compliment me. This is the best way that I receive love, and since everyone receives love differently, it's important for us to know our love language and communicate that.
Whether you're in a romantic relationship or just a plain ole friendship, loving your person the right way is so important. If you receive love best by words of affirmation, but your significant other keeps giving you gifts, they aren't giving love the way you prefer to receive it. Don't get me wrong, most people like receiving gifts, however it may not mean the same thing to different people.
One of my friends hates being touched, but loves being affirmed. When I first met her, I would hug her, but she didn't like it. I didn't realize that her love language was affirmation, so I was giving her love the wrong way.
This video has affected my life tremendously. I made this months bulletin board in my residence hall about love language. I really truly believe that knowing and communicating your love language with your partner or friend can really help your relationship grow.
Take the quiz yourself and let me know what you think!
All my love,
Shan
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