I feel like the older I get the more life questions I seem to be asked daily. Questions like "when are you planning on getting married?" or "what are you gonna do once you graduate?" are basically all I get asked. The answer to them all is normally "I don't know, I'm not really worried about it right now." While I sat and reflected on these questions the other night, I had an overwhelming thought. All of these life decisions are something I am going to commit myself to for longer than I have currently been alive.
I hear adults all the time saying they still have not figured out what they want to do with their lives. I used to really struggle with having to have a plan for everything. I needed the next five years of my life to be perfectly planned out and nothing needed to alter that. I slowly learned that you can almost never succeed at doing that. Life has a funny way of changing the plans you set for yourself. So I stopped planning. I stopped living my life by my check list and what others were making me think I needed to do.
I realized that it was okay to not graduate on time (props to the people who do). I realized that I don't have to know exactly what I am going to do when I graduate. I don't need to be planning on getting married and having a family. I don't need to worry about what I am gonna do two summers from now. I actually don't need to worry about things at all. Stop letting society tell you when it is time to have things figured out. You control your life, and let's face it, IT IS YOUR LIFE. You are making these decisions for yourself, and it is okay to take your time.
Everyone is different and every life is meant for a different purpose. It is okay to be sad to see others your age graduating, getting married, traveling, getting a good job, etc. It is okay to want these things and long for them. But what you need to understand is that every single one of those come at a different time for everyone. You know what is best for you and what you want to pursue. Take your life and live your life happily. Take it day by day and slow down. Enjoy your life and when the time comes, you will have it figured out.
