If I had a dollar for every time someone referred to me as "high maintenance," I would probably be one of the richest people alive. But in reality, what's really wrong with being labeled as high maintenance?
Some people may use the term to degrade you, or make you feel like you're way more work than you're worth. But what happened to wanting what we deserve? You most commonly hear someone being referred to as high maintenance in relationships. Some guys may be hesitant to pursue something with a girl because they may think that she's too high maintenance. I'm sorry, but like I said before, what happened to not only wanting, but getting what we deserve?
Some people may carry more emotional baggage than others, and that's not that person's fault. Because of this, that person may need more attention than normal, they may need a shoulder to cry on more often, they may need someone to wipe their tears at the end of everyday. If someone truly cares for their significant other, they should have no problem fulfilling some of these emotional "high maintenance" needs.
I believe that I should get what I deserve. There's a distinction between emotional high maintenance and physical high maintenance. Emotional is when you carry that extra baggage, and physical is when you have a physical high maintenance need for things. Either way, you should not be degraded for being the way that you are.
I tend to be referred to as high maintenance for my emotional needs. I carry baggage myself, and I will not apologize for the person I am and what made me to be the person I am today. If a man can't deal with me the way I am, he doesn't deserve me. As cocky as that sounds, it's reality. Everyone should have someone who jumps through hoops for them. Never settle for less than you deserve. You need people in your life who will lift you up and encourage you to keep going. Not someone who will drag you down and use your challenges against you.
I am very often referred to as high maintenance and I am 100% okay with it. I know what I deserve and I won't settle for anything less. Nobody should. I use the term to push me to not settle for someone who doesn't really deserve me. If they have the audacity to criticize me for my "high maintenance" emotional needs, they are definitely not someone I need in my life. Ultimately, do not feel guilt for being high maintenance; take pride in it. Use it to push yourself to find someone who actually deserves you and all of your "baggage." It's okay to be high maintenance; don't let it get you down.
