When my mom had me in her twenties, her brothers and sisters were still in elementary school. She's the oldest of eight kids, the youngest is my aunt who's only eight years older than me. When I was in high school, they were having babies left and right. Now don't get me wrong, my ovaries exploded whenever I met the new baby in the family. My god-daughter, Chloe, is a little piece of heaven, but I really love that I get to give her back to her mom at the end of the day. Being the oldest means I'm the automatic babysitter and trust me, being around babies every other week is the best form of birth control.
Right now, I'm constantly getting asked "when are you getting a boyfriend?" or "why don't you have a baby?" Well, here are a couple of reasons why I'm not ready to be a parent just yet.
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1) I need a man first!
I admit, I'm picky and have the idea of what I want in Mr. Right in the future. I just don't have time to find him. I'm taking eighteen hours of classes, working part-time, and volunteering every week it's a miracle that I have time to fit in sleep let alone a date. Not to trash anybody, but there just isn't a good variety of guys out here at my school and whatever ones that are cute or attractive are either married, or just wanting a good time, if you know what I mean.
2) I'm still a child.
Since I turned 18, my mom has always said, "at your age, you'd be married with two kids by now." I can barely remember to take the garbage out in the morning or respond to a class discussion online. How the heck am I suppose to take care of another human when I can barely take care of myself?
3) I'm young and selfish.
I just hit the twenties and there's still so much I want to do. See all seven continents, buy my first house, get my degree and go to grad school. If I have a kid in the middle of that, it'll force me to put my life on hold before it even starts. I'd spend the rest of my life regretting and wishing I had that time back.
So, yes, I'm not ready for kids now, but I do want them in the future.
