Are you going to class dressed like that?
Why are you so dressed up?
You know you can wear sweatpants right?
Who are you trying to impress?
I'm not going to sit here and pretend that I feel so comfortable dragging my wedges around campus.
For me, dressing has always been a very vital way of self-expression. It's alarming that many people in our generation even still have these obsolete ideas that we present ourselves in the way we do to warrant positive affirmation from society. Let me tell you why I think this is utter bullshit.
Whether it be my ego or whatever you call it, I believe that I don't need to dress a certain way to enthrall someone. I believe that if someone doesn't admire me while I'm wearing no makeup and a raggedy t-shirt than they definitely don't deserve me when I put in the effort to look put together. In my opinion, how a person chooses to carry themselves is NOT a consequence of their personality or any reflection of their character. I also don't suppose that it's a mere representation of their yearning to fit in or, on the other hand, their apathy towards social acceptance.
It's honestly a personal choice ( YOU DO YOU BOO)
I've always seen my choice of attire in a prolific light. There are so many decisions we make on a day to day basis from what time we are going to wake up to what we're going to eat for lunch. There doesn't have to be an underlying motive. Sure they may. You may be eating that salad because of the copious micronutrients or you may be eating that slice of pizza because you were feeling cheesy today. However, just like any other decision, the way you dress, may honestly just be a result of how you simply feel like dressing.
I won't sit here and pretend that I don't have a rationale for throwing on that cute summery dress and matching wedges. I honestly do. However, my motive doesn't entail acceptance from society. In more layman terms, I dress for myself.
There is something gratifying waking up a little earlier in the morning to do my hair and dressing up in clothes other than sweats. When I look great, I exude confidence. When I wear attire that excites me, I feel more enthusiastic to go about my daily activities. I carry myself in the way that I do because I personally find self-satisfaction in doing so.
No, I'm not trying to impress someone
No, I don't need you to tell me I look pretty
No, I'm not trying to gain social acceptance
It's almost 2020 guys. The Kardashian's have done an impeccable job at making comfortable look chic. You can practically wear pajamas and look trendy! Honestly, I love to rock the laid back outfits. However, I don't comprehend why many people in society find it appropriate to deem people who put effort into the way they present themselves as attention seekers.
I don't want your attention.
I simply desire to be content.
You're right, I shouldn't necessitate an outfit to bring out my valiance and truthfully speaking I don't. I'm very comfortable being the audacious girl I am even when I'm not all dressed up. However, why should I hinder myself from doing things that make me exultant and make me feel more intrepid than I already am, in fear of someone thinking that I am doing it to please them?
All in all, I believe every person out here has the right to dress the way they want to. There's nothing wrong with wearing pajamas to class and there's nothing wrong with wearing a dress. Not every person out there is dressing the way they are to attract attention or gain acceptance. It's unfair to think that this world revolves on an ulterior motive or that every person out here is concerned with what we think.
Do what makes you happy, and I will too :)
