The term "relationship" more often than not, is a word that has the power to immediately freak any single college guy out. The idea of commitment in a setting where there is an active social scene and thousands of girls to interact with just does not seem appealing to most guys for the time being.
It is apparently much easier to just focus on yourself and have the ability to hang out with your friends without being “tied down" in a relationship.
But, I will be the first to admit that yes, guys can be a little ridiculous in their thought process, sometimes. Why would anyone waste away the opportunity to be with someone that they genuinely like just because it's college?
My mindset has been aligned with the typical college guy for a majority of my first year on campus. I tossed around the phrase “not wanting to be tied down" so many times thinking that being with someone would restrict me from my college experience and from doing anything on my own.
Throughout the year, I have unnecessarily been suppressing the idea of being in a relationship, because I have actively trained my mind to think that being in a relationship correlates with having no freedom. But, I have realized that any guy would be very wrong to think that. Your space will be respected. You will have time to do your own thing and hang out with your friends. You just simply gain a teammate that will always be by your side by being in a relationship with someone that you care about.
All of these realizations came to me recently when it hit me that I have been wasting away a shot at an awesome relationship with a girl I have been unofficially official with for nearly a year, now, all because the term “relationship" and the idea of commitment scared me more than anything.
So, after realizing this, I want to use this article as an opportunity to ask Tabbi Fink (yes, the girl in my avatar picture) to forgive me for taking so long to come to my senses and to officially be my girlfriend, because there is no reason to fear commitment.
I also want other guys who are questioning whether or not to be in a relationship with someone that they care about to realize that they are only wasting time by being afraid of commitment. The girl that you care about can easily move on and find someone else by the time you realize that there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship in college. Don't be afraid to man up.
