It seems like when you are just becoming a teenager, you cannot wait to just grow up. Then you finally grow up and you don't like it, you would do anything to ditch the responsibility, the stubborn bills that demand to be paid every month and the headaches. No one ever talks about the teenagers who grow up and end up loving it, the ones who don't complain about being an adult or how hard it is.
Some people find that a challenge or even see it as the beauty of life. Seems unrealistic I'm sure, but I am that person. Ever since I was a young girl, I always wanted to just grow up. Yes, everyone is like that, and there are times I do look back and wish I had lived in the moment more. But now that I'm grown, I don't want to go back.
I remember my mother saying how I am 16 going on 25 with my attitude and resistance to rules. I was an independent child and now adult. All throughout high school, whenever I spoke of my plans for the future. I felt wrong doing so. Everyone used that infamous line "high school is the best years of your life, don't be so eager to grow up." Well, I firmly disagree, I didn't care for high school.
Sure, I loved being a kid and enjoyed having things handed to me and not having a care in the world. But I'd never wish to go back to those times. That's not what life is about.
I was the typical semi-shy girl in high school that always was in a relationship, just making the time go by like everyone else. I got decent grades and even got the chance to graduate a little bit early. As soon as I got out of high school, I moved back to my hometown. Since then, I've only seen a handful of friends, and I don't mind. I actually love it.
I have never and will never understand why my peers complain about bills and work, because I feel so lucky and privileged to have those things. Bills are like certificates for doing an awesome job. Nothing in the world is free, some people have yet to grasp that. It's not like I'm giving my money to Oscar the Grouch and he's ripping it up in his trash can. I'm paying for things I get to enjoy on a daily basis. Yes, I have a $300 car payment, but I'm happy to send that in every month. I'm feeling happy about that because I'm lucky enough to be able to be 19 years old and afford an amazing car that I love and have the privilege of driving everyday.
I don't expect anything to be given to me. I have amazing things like a car and extra money for things I enjoy. I also have the chance to go to college on a scholarship, which I am so grateful for. I think of all these great things in my life and the things I get to do, I am happy to pay for it. I've worked for everything, to be able to pay bills, live on my own and have a cool car, amongst other things.
I have always been the financially responsible and organized friend and family member. Yes, I am young and when people know that I'm young and see all I have, they question me. That bothers me. Many people assume I'm just some trust-fund kid mooching off Mama, but I'm not. People can't seem to understand how it's possible for a college student to not be broke and miserable. I should not have to feel bad for having my stuff together.
I think of my friends; while many are happy in their lives, I barely see them. I understand how it can be frustrating for friends to hear how I can't make their last-minute plans. but on the other hand it's frustrating for me to have to hear their last-minute plans. I have awesome things I'm doing and can go do amazing things because of my budgeting and organization. I am still capable of having fun and I do have fun.
Just because I have a planner and schedule does not mean I'm living a boring life. Trust me, I'm not. I have time for just about anyone who really wants it. It's just that no one wants to have to work around my schedule and actually plan something. My schedule is the way it is so I don't have to eat ramen every night, so I can travel and let loose every once in awhile. I feel like I'm not thought of as the fun one simply because I'm not always available. No, my schedule isn't just always open.
Another thing people confuse me for being broke with me not wanting to blow money on dumb wasteful things. Yes, sometimes I lie and say I'm broke simply because saying, "sorry, I have that money set aside for vacation, maybe if you asked me and I set money aside to blow on this then I would have set aside money to just blow," isn't acceptable.
I enjoy the life of being young and organized. If that means I'm going to lose some friends and family in the process, then so be it. That just means they aren't supposed to be in my life anyway. Away with the negative vibes, people. I'd rather be this way than always being available and taken for granted.
I feel like living the way I am is not wasting years, but making them even better. I am having the best years of my life thanks to budgeting and organization. Organizing this way gives me so much more time to zone in on what's going on in the present rather than stressing about the future. I do not feel bad for having my stuff planned and together at such a young age. I don't miss high school, and I love being an adult. Being so young and grown at the same time makes my life so exciting and open to new adventures. I love adulting and I'm happy to admit it.