Whenever I see an article about sorority life, it almost always has to do with how Bigs are awesome. Don’t get me wrong — my big is awesome and one of the best people that has ever came into my life. She’s one of my best friends, and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. However, the unsung hero is the Grand-Big, or G-Big for short.

While you essentially get to choose who your Big is, you have to trust her judgement of who their Big, and your soon to be G-Big is. And, while you get to pick who your Big is, your G-Big helps your Big decide who becomes a part of their family. So your G-Big picked you, too.

While Bigs are there to guide you through sorority life, college life and even the scary real adult life, your G-Big doesn’t necessarily have that responsibility. Sure, they’ll be there to talk to just like your Big is, and they’ll protect you like they’re your Big, but they’ll also get wild with you at parties, be your wingman for cute boys (not without getting a full background check, first), and basically let you get away with anything your heart desires, and promises not to tell your Big. She’s like your sorority grandma, even though she hates admitting that because it makes her sound old.

Visiting your G-Big is much like a visit to grandma’s house — you get away with everything with the saying, “Don’t tell Big," and she’ll even feed you. It’s a win-win situation.

The problem is that G-Bigs don’t get enough credit. It’s nothing like the relationship you have with your Big, but it is still just as special and should be celebrated. She will always be there for a two in the morning vent session and a Harry Potter movie marathon when you’re both feeling lazy. The fact that you both have an irreplaceable bond with your Big makes you the greatest trio around. Also remember, she gave her blessing for your Big to have you as a Little. She chose you too.

G-Bigs do not get enough credit. They are the person that guided your big through every bump in the road both before and after you became a Little. She helped to mold your Big into the strong, independent, loving person that she is, and was a guide that showed her how to be a good Big. Eventually, she’ll teach her how to be a Great G-Big to your Little (or maybe she already is). Either way, your G-Big doesn’t get enough credit, so go give her a huge hug and tell her that you love her.