3 Reasons Girls Should Always Make The First Move | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Relationships

3 Reasons Girls Should Always Make The First Move

Let him known how you feel, girl!

337
3 Reasons Girls Should Always Make The First Move
Unsplash

Palms sweating, heart racing, you’ve just sent THE text to the boy that you’ve been day-dreaming about for months. Maybe the text is as simple as a “hey 😊” or as forward as “I’d love to get dinner sometime.” You feel like throwing your phone across the room, into a river or into the fireplace. You automatically wonder what you have just done and wish you could unsend it. Has he already seen it? I bet he is already showing all of his friends. I will never be able to face him again.

Relax – there are so many reasons why girls should make the first move more often.

1. Isn’t it better to just know?


Instead of waiting around hoping and wishing he will reach out to you, notice you or ask you out, isn’t it better to just know if he’s interested? If he is, you two can decide where to go from there and stop the guessing. If he isn’t interested, you can move on! You don’t have to waste another second hoping that he will go out with you.

2. It is not any easier for guys to make the first move.


Obviously I am not a guy, but I have asked enough dudes about this to know that sometimes they appreciate having the weight of constantly making the first move taken off their shoulders. Confessing feelings of attraction is difficult regardless of gender, and just because a guy isn’t walking right up to you and telling you that you look gorgeous, doesn’t mean that he is not interested! He might be shy or not know how to talk to you. If you’re interested, go after him.

3. Embody your confidence

There is something so gratifying about knowing that you don’t have to sit around and hope a guy will call. Your feelings matter just as much as his, and fear of rejection shouldn’t get in the way of going after what you want. Any decent guy won’t mock your feelings, tell everyone he knows, or avoid you for the rest of his life because you expressed interest in him.

I know that is it easier said than done, and there are people with legitimate reasons for not making the first move, but girls should just go for it more often. Why should a guy who has feelings make them more known than a girl who has feelings? If you catch feelings and are interested in pursuing a relationship, say something! It is not worth waiting and wishing and certainly not worth never knowing what could have happened. No one is saying you have to propose marriage by making the first move. It can be as subtle or forward as you’d like. I’m also not saying that there is a need to rush anything. It just makes logical sense that the first person to realize they have feelings should be the first to make them known, whenever they are read to do so, regardless of gender. You deserve the man or your dreams, and you deserve to know if the guy you are talking to has the potential to be that in your life or not. This is the 21st century – time to squash gender norms where they stand.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Taylor Swift in orange dress playing a moss-covered piano on stage with bright lights.

A three-and-a-half-hour runtime. Nine Eras. Eleven outfit changes. Three surprise songs. Zero breaks. One unforgettable evening. In the past century, no other performer has put on an electric performance quite like Taylor Swift, surpassing her fans ‘wildest dreams’. It is the reason supporters keep coming back to her shows each year. Days later, I’m still in awe of the spectacle ‘Miss Americana’ puts on every few days in a new city. And, like one of Taylor’s exes, has me smiling as I reminisce about the memories of the night we spent together.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

A Few Thoughts Every College Freshman Has

The transition into adulthood is never easy

23806
Mays Island
Courtney Jones

Today I started my third week of college at Minnesota State Moorhead. I have survived welcome week, finding my classes on the first day, and being an awkward loner in the dining hall. Even though I have yet to be here for a month, I have already experienced many thoughts and problems that only a new college student can relate to.

Keep Reading...Show less
Students walking on a sunny college campus with trees and buildings.

"Make sure to get involved when you're in college!"

We've all heard some variation of this phrase, whether it came from parents, other family members, friends, RAs, or college-related articles. And, like many clichés, it's true for the most part. Getting involved during your college years can help you make friends, build your resume, and feel connected to your campus. However, these commitments can get stressful if you're dealing with personal issues, need to work, or aren't sure how to balance classes and everything else going on during the semester.

Keep Reading...Show less
Relationships

9 Reasons Why Friends Are Essential In College

College without friends is like peanut butter without jelly.

9943
Bridgaline Liberati and friends
Bridgaline Liberati

In college, one of the essential things to have is friends. Yes, textbooks, a laptop, and other school supplies are important but friends are essential. Friends are that support system everybody needs. The more friends you have the better the support system you have. But you also have someone to share experiences with. And don’t settle for just one or two friends because 8 out of 10 times they are busy and you are studying all alone. Or they have other friend groups that do not include you. Don’t settle for just one or two friends; make as many friends as you can. After the first couple of weeks of college, most friend groups are set and you may be without friends.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

The Power of Dressing Up

Why it pays to leave the hoodie at home.

7206
sneakers and heels
Sister | Brother Style - Word Press

For a moment your world is spinning. The phone alarm has just scared you awake and you’re flooded by daunting thoughts of the day ahead. You have three assignments due and little time to work on them because of your job. You’re running late because you’ve hit snooze one to many times after yesterday’s long hours. You dizzily reach for a hoodie, craving its comfort, and rush for a speedy exit, praying you will have time to pick up coffee. Does this sound familiar?

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments