Recently, I’ve noticed how shorts are getting shorter and shirts are getting lower. Girls strive more to get those “you’re sexy” comments rather than to hear “you’re beautiful.” They think posting a picture in their bikinis will get a guy to like them or wearing a skin tight dress will help them pick up a date. I have no issues with girls embracing who they are. Every girl is beautiful and deserves to feel beautiful. But girls do not need to go about this by shaming their bodies and gaining the wrong company.

All girls want attention from guys. There is no shame in that. We are all looking for someone to live the rest of our lives with and to love us for who we are. However, finding this guy is not attained by being “sexy.” When girls post or wear something provocative, all that comes along with it is the wrong attention. It will lure in the guys who only want you for your body, not for you alone. The word “sexy” is a word that should be used for the women who exhibit good qualities, not only in their appearance but through their personality too. And for those women who never hear the word “sexy” applied to them, do not be ashamed. The women who hear that word are often showing more skin and wearing more makeup than necessary. You do not need to have a “smoking hot bod” and you do not need to wear pounds of makeup.

The word every girl should be striving for is “beautiful.” As women, we should be gaining attention through our modesty, personalities and pure intentions. We should be striving to gain attention from a guy who falls for us, not for our bodies. The word "beautiful" means “having beauty; possessing qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.” (dictionary.com). Being beautiful is about the qualities not only on the outside, but also on the inside. We have to find someone who will fall for who we are before they fall for our outside appearance. And we need to remember that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). God made no mistake in making us. He does not want us to focus on our external appearance but rather the “hidden person of the heart” which He finds more precious (1 Peter 3:3-4).

So ladies, cover up. You don’t need to show all that you got to the world. Your body should be seen by one person and that is your husband. Until you find him, learn to be modest. Learn to love yourself so that another can come along and love you. Be confident with who you are in clothes that will not attract the wrong attention. You can look more beautiful in a shirt that covers up or a skirt that reaches your knees than something that shows less. Save your heart from heartbreak by exhibiting modesty, building personality, and showing pure intentions. There will be a guy that comes along one day who won’t care what you look like. Rather, he’ll care to know you heart and love you for you. It’s time to learn to be “beautiful” again. You’ll truly learn to appreciate life through exhibiting beauty rather than sexiness.