Currently, I have my headphones in, and I am furiously typing away at my computer while I blast the " Boss A$$ B----" playlist on Spotify. I don't know if it's the sound of Beyoncé echoing in my ears, or that fact that I’m actually so annoyed that's giving me the gall to write this, but I’m going to roll with it.
Yesterday, someone near and dear to my heart expressed to me that she had been getting bullied since she's been on campus. What started off as roommate issues, erupted into malicious rumors being spread about her to EVERYONE. Since, I've known her, this individual has been incredibly kind, and very, very strong; so to see her this distressed really made my heart go out for her.
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All this nonsense got me to thinking, that this isn't the first time I have heard of a Woman undeservingly hurting the feelings of another woman, and what's sad is that it probably won't be the last time either. Listening to this young lady explain to me the peril her old roommate put her through and continues to put her through, was no new story-- in fact it was a textbook case of "Mean Girl Syndrome."
So why is it that girls have to be mean to each other to make point?
The Truth Is...They Don't.
Look at some of the strongest women in History-- Susan B. Anthony, Malala Yousafzai, Beyonce, etc. and tell me how many times they had to tear another woman down to make themselves feel big?
Being a woman should not mean having to live a life in fear. It should not mean having to orchestrate every action, and reaction to please an audience. No. Being a woman is a privilege, it is a sisterhood. And sisters-- they are obliged to stick together.
So to all the mean girls:
We don't care what sorority you're in, how pretty you think you are, or how many guys you've slept with. Those are POINTLESS entities to judge a woman on.
WE ARE ON THE SAME TEAM.
Do you want to pretend that you've never cried over a bad grade? Do you want to pretend that you've never felt pressured into looking a certain way because that's what's "in"? Do you want to tell me that you've never sat up late at night, and been completely crippled by the fact that you may grow up to be a complete failure?
Of course you have, because no matter who you are at some point in your life you will doubt your potential, and that is why being a woman is such a gift. As women, we are able to give the most genuine support, because we ourselves are facing the same demons.
So set your insecurities to the side, tear down the wall of self justification for your poor choices, and let love in. It would be a much more beautiful world, if we spent time spreading positivity, and deep down we all know that. It's easy to succumb to the pettiness, to bring someone down when we feel threatened-- but that is when the test of your womanhood comes into play. As Mark Twain once said " A man's character may be learned from the adjectives which he habitually uses in conversation." Newsflash, this is applicable for women too. Raise your conversation to a standard that brings positivity into this world, send out good vibes and you shall receive good vibes.
At the end of the day, we are all someone's daughter-- so treat your fellow women in a manner you would want your daughter's friends to treat her.
Kindness is the most elegant of traits, and elegance is the only beauty that never fades. So let's make this world more beautiful together-- not with our looks, but with our actions.
