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Why Girls Are Attracted To The "Unattainable" Guy

Reasons why we choose the f*** boy.

Rachel Colassi

Sep 06, 2016

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Why Girls Are Attracted To The "Unattainable" Guy

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We have all done it. You meet a guy, he seems okay, but turns out to be a total f*** boy. You don't necessarily know why you are attracted to the guy that is totally not good for you. I dated this one guy for about a year. We would fight all the time about the dumbest topics. He treated me like shit and I let him. We blamed it on timing, emotional unavailability, useless fights, but that wasn't the case. The truth was we were not right for each other. By the end of our relationship, it was like he was making a hobby of hurting my feelings.He wasn't my type, or what I should be looking for in a guy.

The textbook definition of a jerk: any guy who leads a girl to believe that he cares about her without actually caring about her. You don't necessarily know why you are attracted to the guy that is totally not good for you. The textbook definition of a good guy: any guy who openly shows love for girls he’s interested in. Here's reasons why you choose the jerk over the good guy.

1. You are trying to make him "a better guy"

There is always that one guy who you think you can change for the better. You say to yourself, "sure he is bad now, but once I get ahold of him, he will be perfect." A year later, the guy is still the same. Because guys do not change for girls, they change for themselves.

2. You accidently friend-zoned the good guy

You meet a fantastic guy, an all around good person, and you decide to make him your friend. Sure, that's great, until you friend-zoned him so hard that you don't even look at him in a sexual way.

3. Girls are terrified of finding Mr. Right and being his Miss Wrong

Girls can be so scared of finding the right guy, that they settle for anything. We can be so afraid of finding someone right for us that we're practically blinded by the bad guys that show up in front of us. Were terrified of being wrong about the guy.

4. You truly believe opposites attract

So you have good morals, a good background, you are an overall good person, and you are going to pick someone opposite to that? I think not.

5. We want what we cannot have

Girls like the “bad boy” for his rebellious ways. They want someone their parents would not necessarily approve of. We want someone who is unattainable, who is hard to reach.

In the end, I believe we all end up with the person we should be with. I think everything happens for a reason, and sure if you want to have a fling with a bad boy, no one is stopping you. I do not, however, think you should choose a bad guy, a jerk, or anyone who treats you poorly. If a guy is treating you like shit, drop his ass.

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