The world is constantly evolving and apparently so is the way we find love. See, it's not so simple anymore due to standards of romance changing and dating apps becoming more popular than asking a person out, you know, in person.
Now I'm not trying to sound like a whining single person...but putting yourself out there isn't as easy as people think with these preconceived notions of what is expected nowadays. Is it so wrong to want to get to know someone first and have good conversations?
Times are changing and the idea of romance has almost become a distant dream.
Dating is practically extinct because we've become accustomed to play games and hide our feelings. Even the ones who are dating, usually end a relationship due to cheating and dishonesty. Most intentions of others never quite turn out to be what you wanted them to be.
Romance has turned into complimenting someone on their ass and then jumping into bed. Maybe it's just me setting my standards too high, but can Nicolas Sparks hold a conference on romance or something?! I'm tired of this immature romance with detached feelings and meaningless compliments.
The "hook up generation" has caused the hit-it-and-quit-it mentality.
We've become trained to desensitize ourselves to emotions. It becomes so easy to fall into this routine and keep your guard up. I think the worst advice I ever got from a friend was to make sure I left as early as possible from a guy's house.
She would say, "Men only want one thing and they don't want to have to deal with you in the morning." I taught myself to be this way as if I was some inconvenience in the morning. If anything I was a blessing....just kidding. I'm a walking troll in the a.m. but you get my point.
Love is really a funny thing because we crave it so badly, but it's scary as sh*t.
When I see some of the people I respect the most cheat on their significant other as easily as batting an eye, it makes me question what does loyalty even mean anymore. How can someone say, "I love you" to someone's face and then go be with another person?
I sit there in awe thinking, 'How can you ever truly trust someone?' Take Kevin Hart, for example, my heart was broken when I found out he cheated. Also, Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé...i'll leave it there.
One of my best friend's swears she is never getting married and I can't even blame her.
From the moment I had my first crush in preschool, I thought about being with someone for a lifetime. I can remember marrying my Barbie doll to the sexy Ken doll because married life seemed perfect. Marriage was something exciting to look forward to but now it just scares me. I'm committing my life to this person...back to Kevin Hart like he cheated on his pregnant wife. WHAT IS LOVE.
How are you suppose to find a significant other when the world revolves around dating apps, one-night stands and keeping updated with the next best thing?
It's sad that it's hard to get your hopes up because we live in a world of assholes. Dating apps are filled with raging hormones, flirting that goes nowhere and people that take it too far. My favorite is when guys ask me, "How is a girl like you still single?"
Well, because no one should have to settle for these assholes who think complimenting for shallow things is enough. Find a partner who challenges you, wants the best for you and is willing to give you all of their love. Never settle for less than you deserve.
Then we have the outliers, the ones who find that once in a lifetime, storybook kind of love.
We all know that one couple that gives us the tiniest bit of faith in love. Although we still question love, it keeps that light from completely burning out. I'm not saying it's impossible to find love, someone is out there for everyone. Just be willing to wait for the right one to come along, instead of forcing yourself to love.
I REALLY hope the age of being faithful and true romance is coming back in style soon or else we're stuck with trash songs about leaving ya b*tch to go see ya other b*tch. Bless this world. Remember you don't need someone to feel loved, love yourself first.
