College can be, as we all know, quite hard. And I’m not only talking about the actual academic part of it (because we all know that’s the hardest). I’m talking about the social aspect of it. Everyone goes into college thinking they’ll get a dorm, become BFFs with their roommate and make tons of friends. But that’s not always the case. No one ever wants to talk about it but, it's usually NOT the case at all.
Everyone in college is scared of talking to people. You’re pushed into an unfamiliar place where you have to live on your own for up to four months, with pretty much no one that’s constantly been in your life thus far. That’s usually why, when people first get to college and they see someone they vaguely know — they latch onto that person. They always get lunch together, or go out together, or what have you. It’s easier to meet and talk to new people when you’re with another person.
Anyways, as you can probably tell, that is what I went through when I first went to college. I lived in a dorm with two other roommates. My roommates were great, nice people, but we didn’t get very close in the four months we lived together. And in the four months, I was living at school, I didn’t really make any friends either. I would usually eat with or hang out with people I already knew from high school most of the time. And the rest of my free time I would honestly go to the quiet floor of the library and watch Netflix! I honestly felt like a loser. I felt like I would never make friends at this school and I would hate it forever.
But, I am here to tell you that everything does eventually fall into place. During the time when I felt sad about not having people to share my college experience with, I would vent to my parents or friends. They would always reply with “You’ll make friends! It will eventually happen!” or “You can’t force friendship! It will come naturally.” And honestly, I never believed them. I thought I was destined to be alone. However, as my college career went on, I DID start meeting new people. I joined clubs and actually talked to people in my classes. I would exchange numbers with my fellow club members. I joined a sorority. And eventually, after putting myself out there, I made friends. Close friends that I never thought I would have in college. ‘
This just goes to show that the phrase “everything will work out in the end” has truth to it. It’s truly the reason why I now live my life with that phrase in mind. However you are feeling; sad, angry, anxious- it will pass. You will not feel that way forever. You will find happiness and friendship and peace in your life. Never believe for one second that you are destined to be alone, sad, or depressed forever. Because everything works out in the end.
