Okay, immediately you're thinking I'm the worst, right?
Let me explain. I want to get married. Absolutely! (Now, personally, I don't want a wedding. I think they're overly expensive, and instead we can use that money for a great honeymoon or put a down payment on a place to live, but that's besides the point.)
Although staying boyfriend and girlfriend for good doesn't bother me, I understand the significance behind the title. One of those significant reasons being able to show and say that I am 100 percent fully committed to someone and they're 100 percent fully committed to me. (Which sounds great!)
But, I still don't want his last name.
He doesn't have a bad last name. He has a pretty basic, normal name.
The thing is: I have no real attachment toward last names. Coming from a family where almost everyone has a different last name (mine not being the same as anyone elses in the house), I don't see how a last name brings people together. It's all about the love you share.
I've always had a plan in my head to go and legally change my last name to something I pick and want. (Actually, my whole family has thought about changing their names to something cooler).
When I've thought about the idea of getting married, it bothers me that most men want the woman to take his last name, no exceptions. I understand in the past names were traditionally passed down to show status, loyalty, etc. But in the modern day, last names are jumbled, most families have multiple last names for different reasons, such as people getting married into other last names, divorce, etc.
The compromise? I believe it would be fair if both my future husband and myself picked a new last name we both liked when we get married.
So, here's my deal: I understand it may be a hassle for him to change his last name, it may be a little embarrassing, or he'll get grief from his friends for a while. But why is it fair that I have to change my name to his, and he not change it to mine or something different?
Can't we agree on something we both like?
