What is it about relationships that make us believe we can stop caring? Is it the fact that we found someone that will love us without starving ourselves? Is it comfort? Is it laziness? Is it the fact that our boyfriend or girlfriend eats whatever they want so we should too?
Lately, I've noticed that I want to stop caring. I do my hair less often, put on make-up less and eat much, much more. I find myself justifying my lack of care by saying to myself that "I work so hard" and "I just want to relax" or "who cares? I have a boyfriend."
Then, I started to wonder why I'm taking less care of myself? What was happening? Is it because I've hit the one year mark in my relationship and that's when everything (including myself) falls apart? I figured that many men and women can relate to this problem and what it comes down to for me is that, I was losing myself and what I cared about. I was losing the love I had for taking care of myself and how good it feels to "feel attractive" for me, not for my man or anyone else.
Anyone in a relationship can relate to their significant other saying "they love their new curves" or they "look better without make-up," but would they really tell us otherwise? Are we going to let someone's opinion stop us from taking pride in ourselves and our appearance? No, we can't. But do not get me wrong here, no make-up is great too, I love embracing the natural look (it's easy); however, finding some time to groom and to beautify yourself will make you so much happier. It is true, we look the way we feel.
Plus, we all know what it is like to be on the other end of the stick, watching your significant other stop caring and refraining from hurting their feelings. It sucks, it flat out sucks. And you can't tell the person you love that they are losing themselves, it just doesn't work. So, what I am trying to say is that even though life and our relationships want to swallow us whole, we have to find time for ourselves. We have to find time for grooming and beautifying our bodies because when it comes down to it, our bodies are all we have and no one is going to do it for us.
So, wake up extra early tomorrow, do your hair and make-up, and enjoy feeling brand new.
