Dating in college is not a thing anymore. Unfortunately, people tend to go towards casual hookups or being friends with benefits but no one really puts the effort into an actual relationship. Everyone seems to believe that being involved in a “no-strings attached” relationship is the best option because you don’t have to worry that much about the other person.

A lot of people believe that college is where you can potentially meet your soul mate but how does one expect to find such a person when all you care about is having sex and never seeing the person again or solely using a person for sex.

I believe college is a time to throw yourself out there and see where you land. Not all relationships are perfect and that may be a reason why college students stray away from them but you will never know unless you try. It sucks to get hurt, everyone knows this, but sometimes it is worth the risk.

This generation spends so much time on apps like Tinder to find a someone to have casual sex with that they miss the people sitting next to them in the library or the people you walk past everyday who can potentially be a match for them.

Casual sex is a text at midnight saying “hey wanna come over? ;)” when you should be receiving a text or phone call or better yet someone asking you in person saying, “Hey would you like to go to dinner and a movie this weekend?” People say chivalry is dead, however, it is hiding in the boy who is too shy to come up to you first, the boy who needs a little extra push to make the first move. This is the boy you should be waiting for, the boy you should be looking for, not the boy on Tinder with his shirt off.

College is more than having one-night stands that you may not even remember. College is a time to explore different options and to find yourself. It is about learning things about yourself you wouldn’t know unless you put yourself out there. This generation is too scared to do that–they don’t want to get hurt, but in the end, they are just hurting themselves. They are stunting their personal growth. How do they expect to keep a relationship in their adult lives when they can’t keep one in college? College is a learning experience all around; academically, socially, and romantically.

I personally believe that in college you should go on dates and see what people can offer and what you can offer to other people. You should wait for the guy that holds the door open for you, the guy who brings you flowers, the guy who acts so silly just to see you smile. They guy who gets nervous when you guys hang out.

You should want to know more about him. You should want to know stories of how he became the man he is today. You should want to meet his family and his friends. You should be nervous and want to make sure his sisters approve and that you and his mom get along. He should make you feel special and you should do the same for him. You should be each others best friends and their biggest supporters.

That is the guy worth dating in college.