I guess I can't get too mad. We took tens of thousands of basically trained adults, threw them into a city with other basically trained adults, added cheap alcohol and social anxiety to the mix, and for some magical reason, expected something good to happen. What were they thinking?
This is a letter to anyone in a war with another person. Maybe it's a roommate, intra-Greek life, or even a significant other. We suck. Every single one of us has issues and we definitely all have enemies, but here's the deal: in just a couple years we are going to be in the real world. And people suck there, too.
Pro tip: if you have a problem with someone, find a way to fix it. If you cannot learn how to settle your differences with another human being then, please, just drop out. I am exhausted with almost everyone at this point in my three year collegiate escapade. No one has ever truly won a fight; there were a lot of casualties in any war. Yeah, I'm talking about the other people in your life that had nothing to do with the immature theatrics that took place. Poor some beer out for the friends affected by the overly annoying tweets about someone. Like, honestly, just tag the person in that tweet next time. Say a prayer for the friendships ruined by breakups that were handled like divorces. Shed an inebriated tear at the perfect Saturday night gone wrong because the hulk decided to come out of your bro who always wants to fight everyone for no reason.
It seems like girls don't get along with each other anymore. It has turned into a situational body slam when my freshman year friends have now isolated themselves into their Greek cliques and refuse to hangout with anyone else. I even hear girlfriends say, "I'd rather hangout with guys because there's less drama."
I'm a social butterfly. I have friends in different areas of life. So it sort of blows my mind that in one friend group a person can be considered "sweet, cute, amazing, etc," and then be absolutely hated in another. In a tweet from @causewereguys, he jokes, "Am I a good person? Depends on who you ask."
That tweet captures the college social scene pretty well, but it also points out the problem. I feel like there is not enough communication and there is so little honesty. People don't respect one another anymore and no one owns up to their mistakes. It has become easier to just evade one another or even, in some cases, lie. Thus, all the mismatched opinions of people.
I am definitely not perfect, so I speak for myself when I say these two ingredients changed a lot in my life. I sincerely miss going to parties and not having to deal with blind hatred between people who could just talk it out. It has been one big crazy college story, but I long for the day when I can navigate through campus, Greek life, and beyond with people that can respectfully argue (and keep it offline), have spirited conversations, and actually forgive each other.
Life is too short, #stopthedrama2k15.
"The key to peace isn't in the love of another, but in the love of all."