It feels good to hang out with your friends. You enjoy watching them play sports and rooting them on. You have a liking of giving them cards, gifts and candy. You even enjoy walking with them in your high school halls to their respective classes. You cried and jumped for joy when you finally see them again for a long time.

But, does these outgoing actions guarantee your success in your long-term successful life? Do your friends ever take you seriously? Do they reciprocate the way you felt? Does it worth your time and energy?

Let's think of it this way. I admired you for being a caring and kind person to everyone. But, in the end, all goods even the perfect must have a weaknesses in life.

Example, you're been nice that you give out candy to your friends. Then, when they start to decline your offer, you decided to be headstrong to not acknowledge their feelings by forcing them to accept your offer.

Another thing, on Instagram, you post likes and comments on your friends' posts just to keep in touch. However, you would then post a crappy comment with excessive sad emojis that your friends will never accept you as their true friend.

In a long run, these kinds of actions will eventually haunt your mind for the rest of your life.

Back when my sophomore year ended, I was immature. I can't forget the time, near the end of August, that day when I was waiting for them outside of the fast food restaurant because I told my good friend that we would hang out. But, they didn't come. I decide to eat alone and went home, crestfallen. I didn't understand why they didn't come. Now, I've realized why they didn't. It all comes down to moving on to college life.

It's also evident, months between my junior and senior year, when I tried to text them to hang out. But they didn't reply back which I was upset. But now, I realized the reason is that not only they went on adventures with their family. It's also to show that they're starting to move on.

At a certain point, my mom had spoken with my older brother when he tried to call his childhood friend. She tells him that being needy and desperate doesn't equal true friends. She then advices him to let his old friend go and focus on himself.

This moment is a final nail to my coffin. I feel guilt and remorse after overhearing this.

I went on my Instagram to undo all my likes on my good, college friends' posts. I also started to view less on Snaphat and Instagram Direct recently.

I do this to escape the unpleasant fate that awaits an outgoing people in the long run.

I dread the fact that my good friends will see me as needy and desperate when they come back from respective colleges. I will not be completely surprised if they ignored me even if they're related to my same classmate or hanging out.

All of these is a grim judgment to the ones who refused to understand their perspective of good and close friends. Don't get me wrong, being outgoing is a very fun experience. But it'll come with a critical cost that will be in your life forever.

Ask yourself. Do you want to stay in the path where you constantly needing their attention and having your life be damned in the end? Do you want to let go of your past and be free from your mental and social demise that awaits you? Your choice of destiny is in your hand.

(Side note: Actually, even though you became resilient, you still can remember your past. But only if outgoing people are much balanced and understanding.)