Being a woman is marvelous. We are such a beautiful species. We are so magical and breathtaking and full of intelligence and passion. But sometimes being a woman is tough, because it feels as if you are constantly in competition with the rest of the world. You want the shiniest hair, the tallest heels, the whitest teeth, the smallest waist, and the list goes on. But who the fuck are we in a competition with?

Day after day, whether in person or online, people are talking about each other. It is always “Did you see what she was wearing?”, or “She needs to lose a few pounds”, or “How does she have a boyfriend?” The craziest thing, is that these women are talking about OTHER women. Their fellow sisters! Why are women so hateful towards each other? Is it because it make us feel better about ourselves? That’s pretty sad if you ask me.

If you see a girl, and she isn’t a size 2, and she’s wearing a crop top and showing some skin, LET. HER. BE. Let her live her life. She looks BOMB as hell and she is rocking that outfit. If a girl posts a picture of her in a bikini and she doesn’t have a flat stomach, she can still look beautiful. Fat does not mean ugly. Her confidence is what makes her beautiful.

Read this line twice: Being confident is not the same as being full of yourself. It is an amazing feeling to wake up and like how you look. It takes time to love yourself. So don’t bash someone because she learned to love herself before you did. Admire her quality, and strive towards loving not only the way you look, but how the rest of your sisters look.

We have to start spreading compliments instead of insults. Fill this horrible world with a little bit of positivity people. The next time you feel yourself about to say something mean, stop yourself. Think of a nice thing to say instead. Maybe her hair looks like shit to you, but compliment her makeup. Find something else to say, other than rude or unnecessary comments. You will make a person’s day if you just stop for five seconds to tell her that her hair looks nice or that she looks good in that shirt. Remember, do not dress to impress others, dress to impress yourself. Look in the mirror and say you look good. You can even say it out loud. Admire yourself. Dress the way YOU like to dress. Show off your body if you want to, it is yours, you are the only owner.

We must stop comparing ourselves to others. We are all so different; different bodies, faces, colors, personalities, lives. We must start to spread love for each other. We all look fine. We all matter. Just tell someone that they look nice once in a while. You might even get the compliment in return. I can guarantee you that complimenting someone will feel better than pointing out their flaws. Being a nice person doesn’t take much effort. Just do the world a favor, and say something nice to someone today. See what happens.