Look, I get it. I know it feels really nice to have a great body. Having a small waistline, perky breasts, a nice butt, and tan skin can give you a huge confidence boost. I know how amazing you feel when you strut out of the house in a killer outfit, with your makeup perfectly applied and your hair looking flawless. I know it how good it feels when you turn heads because of your looks. It's flattering, and can even be addicting. Getting attention from guys is awesome.

There's just one thing about this kind of attention; it's conditional.

Think about it. If you're attracting men by the way you look, what happens when you don't look like that anymore? What happens when the makeup comes off and your hair gets messy and greasy? What happens when you skip a few workouts and your body gets less toned? What happens when you want to wear comfy sweats instead of your revealing clothes?

You won't always look perfect. You'll have some awkward moments. You'll have days when you don't want to spend three hours at the gym or grooming yourself to look fabulous. If you've attracted a guy solely because of the way you look, you're in trouble.

You're in trouble because that type of attention is conditional. It will be present if you look hot and sexy all the time, but once the facade fades away, so will that attention. Your "admirers" won't even give you a second glance. Your crush might start looking for other options. Your boyfriend will be disappointed, because his attraction to you was based on your appearance. All of the attention will fade.

I don't know about you, but I would be miserable if the man I was dating was only attracted to me because of the way that I look. I would constantly have to maintain appearances. I would feel insecure. I would feel used and objectified. It would be stressful. It would feel degrading. It wouldn't be right.

Ladies, if you want a relationship, seek out a man who's interested in your personality first. Seek out a man who loves to joke around, spend time together, and talk about thoughts and ideas and opinions. Seek out a man who thinks you're beautiful unconditionally and loves who you are.

You can still wear clothing that makes you feel attractive. You can still do your hair and your makeup. You can still work on your body and get toned and healthy. You don't have to wear a potato sack and abstain from bathing. All I'm saying is that you shouldn't let your appearance dictate the attention you get. Who you are is WAY more important than how you look.

Don't be fooled; attraction based off of appearance is a very ugly thing. It's conditional, it's fickle, and unless you're perfect 100 percent of the time, it will fade. Have enough self-respect to place more value in who you are than what you look like. Let your inner beauty shine through, and I promise you, you'll attract the right kind of attention.