Ever since I was young, my mother told me to keep a list of who I want my future husband to be. She obviously meant the kind of person I wanted him to be, but I just wrote, 'tall, dark, and handsome'. (My standards were pretty low back then) Anyways, now that I'm older I rewrote my list. I took the time to discern who I could see myself with and the expectations I have for my future spouse. I decided to not include physical attributes but instead, focus on how they are on the inside.

1. Honest

I expect him to be someone who says what he means and does what he says.

2. Patient

A patient man is willing to wait for good things. He puts value in me and through that, respects my boundaries and requests.

3. Gentle

I know this might seem strange to put because women stereotypically like masculine tough men. However, a gentleman balances his strength with grace. He is someone who cares and listens to me. He doesn't lash out in anger or invalidates my emotions.

4. Courageous

I want someone who can stand for things even when its difficult, embarrassing, or unpopular. A courageous man also confesses their wrongs to others and tries their best to better themselves.

5. Faithful

Pretty self-explanatory but I want someone who can live authentically around others, and someone who also walks with God.

6. Hardworking

I want someone who is diligent and can be counted on to provide. I value hard work a lot and believe that in order to succeed in life you have to go through mountains and valleys.

7. Submissive to Authority

This is someone who can admits thier faults and yield to wisdom and change.

8. Selfless

He thinks of others before himself and is called to love me selflessly and sacrifically. He isn't afraid to give up his happiness for mine.

9. Kind

To be kind is to be a Godly man. Godly masculinity is considerate to me and others.

10. Committed to Christ

Someone who is being prayerful, living in community, and being committed to a body of believers.