You dream of him, you think of him non-stop, you feel a tingly sensation when he touches you, you feel like you find the world in his eyes and most importantly you feel like you do not know who you would be without him. The lonely times aren’t so lonely because you have him. You almost become so attached you can not see a life with out him. With him everything is beautiful, every moment you spend with him will always thrive in your heart.

A relationship is a beautiful thing and so is being in love. Doing everything together becomes a habit, and his arms become your home. While on this winding road however, you need to stick to your lane. Never let another person define where you belong. You are you. Be you.

After everything is said and done in a relationship, sometimes you wish things would have been different. Getting over someone you loved is hard. Losing yourself in the process is harder. Whether you guys ended things on good terms or on bad, you still have this little fire in your heart that burns only for him. He loved you and you know that. He doesn’t love you now, and you can not seem to understand that.

You need to take a step back after everything and ask yourself, “Who am I without this person?” You as a person alone are more important than anything. You serve a purpose in this life, you are defined by yourself. You are NOT defined by anyone.You need to focus on yourself and always remember who you are.

In this kind of situation, it could be easy to let yourself slip. When you find yourself crying every night, “sleeping” with your eyes open, flipping pillows to get the dry side - not just the cold side - and staring off into space when others are speaking to you…You have lost yourself. You have allowed this battle to defeat you. But the best part about this is, that you could fight back and come back stronger than ever and that’s exactly what you are going to do.

Get back on your feet, fight it, go out, sleep with your eyes closed, sleep with dry pillows, and when you do stare off into space, make sure you’re thinking about how to make you, a better you.

Losing yourself is the easiest thing in the world, trust me. It will take you months to find who you really are again. In the time you spent losing yourself in him, you lost who you were before. You need to start rebuilding yourself all over; remember everything you stood for and most importantly, stay true to yourself. Be strong and be bold, but also learn to be your own person and follow the path you choose to make for yourself.

So my best advice to the girls who lose themselves like I did is: before the relationship begins ask yourself, “Who am I?” and you should make it a point that your answer should be the same even after the relationship is over.