“Who are you trying to impress?”
That's the question I got asked at work the other day.
I got asked because I was wearing sandal wedge heels (that I got for $6).
What was I wearing with the heels you ask? Jeans and a dressy shirt. Now, I work in an office environment, so dressing up most days is expected. So, to compensate for wearing jeans, I wore some cute heels. That, and I like wearing them. Something about the clicking of heels on the floor sounds like power.
Anyways, when I got asked that question, it hit me.
In today's society, girls are seen as objects. Since when did a girl dressing up, or even wearing jeans and heels, mean she was trying to impress someone? Would you ask a lawyer or business woman, wearing heels and a pencil skirt, who she's trying to impress? No? Then why ask me? No matter my age, or career, I should be allowed to dress how I want to without being seen as trying to impress someone.
Woman of all ages need to have self love for themselves. You need to be comfortable in your own skin. You need to realize at the end of the day, you're the longest commitment, so the only person you should be trying to impress is yourself.
Now as a college student, I know how tough it is to get up and go to class sometimes, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't put in a little extra time sometimes and dress up. I always tell myself, “when you look good, you feel good, you do good.” When you look good and don't look like a bum, you'll feel better about yourself.
I practice this constantly. Starting this past year every time I had a test, didn't matter if it was my 9 a.m. or my 6 p.m. class, I dressed up. No I didn't get a 4.0 this semester, but I did get four "A's" and a "B"and that is still great.
So no, I'm not telling you to dress up everyday or to change your whole wardrobe. I'm telling you to dress how you want. Dress in what you feel comfortable in. Don't wear short skirts and high heels to impress a someone; wear what you feel comfortable in. When you are comfortable, you can learn to love yourself the way you wanna be seen, not the way someone else sees you. If you are happiest in jeans and a t-shirt, then wear that and the right people will still find you attractive, because you want to know what's sexy? Confidence.
So who am I trying to impress? Myself, that's who.
