This one's for the girls. Thanks Martina McBride.
There is a noticeable difference between boys of this world and men of God. Who you are is going to ultimately attract who you are around. Especially in college you hear that girls are looking for their "person" or their "other half," but who are they actually attracting?
OK, think about your dream guy. Think about how you act on a daily basis and then think about if that would attract him. Yes? No? Think about if he was able to watch every little action. Think about how he would view you. If you think that he would still be attracted to you, then cool beans...but if not, you might want to reevaluate. Your actions are going to attract people, because people are ultimately followers. People notice things and then are either attracted to or pushed away. Think about if your life would attract a boy of this world or a man of God.
A boy of this world will love you for your worldly self. He will love you for how pretty your hair looks at dinner. He's going to love you. He will love you for the things that you show to him. He is going to agree with everything you say, because that's easier. He will be behind your decisions, even if they are detrimental to your growth. He will revolve his life around you. He will put you first, which may seem like what you want. He will make you laugh, make you smile, and make you happy...but will he love you like God designed you to be loved?
A man of God will love you just how God designed you to be loved. He will love you for your God-given qualities, and he will love you like Jesus loves us. A man of God won't boast about his accomplishments or about the things that hold him captive. He won't be afraid to call you out when you are straying, because he knows that is best for your growth. He won't be prideful but rather express his gratitude for his Savior. He will put God first, and will value that relationship above others. He will be in step with the Lord, listening to Him in his decisions. He will guard your heart. He will be steadfast in his faith, trusting in his Savior.
So here's the fun part. This isn't saying that men of God are sitting on some pedestal waiting for you. They aren't surrounded by a radiating light, and they certainly don't have name tags that have a thorough description of who they are (dang, that would be nice). He is going to struggle, too. He is going to try, he is going to fail. We cannot expect men to be these magical creatures that are perfect. We have to understand that as humans, we are children of wrath. Through it all, he will be OK. He knows this because he trusts the Lord.
So, girly pop, who are you trying to impress? Are you trying to impress that SUPER cute guy at that party? Because who knows if he is going to remember you in the morning. Are you trying to impress the guy who was transparent with you? Admitting his feelings and trusting you with them? You are the ultimate dictator of who you attract. What are you going to do with it?