We meet people we form relationships and bonds with people who become a part of us. And when we lose one of them, it's like we lose a part of ourselves, too--that person had become so essential to us that it feels a piece is missing without them. Everything you do reminds you of them because, at one point, you did everything with them. So, what do you do when you lose a part of yourself? Who even are you after that?
When we lose someone that has become such a huge part of our life, it hurts--no matter what the reason is. You go through several stages of being sad, being angry, being okay, plus other emotions. You'll probably feel blank for a little while because how can you possibly exist without them? Well, you can and I promise that you will. The good thing about feeling blank? You can use it as a blank slate--start from scratch. Find the new you, because chances are you have drastically changed since this person entered your life--but have you been able to explore that? The journey of self-discovery is the most exciting and rewarding journey you can ever take.
Your worth is not determined by anyone other than you so do not let anyone make you feel like you are not enough. All it takes is for you to decide that you are good enough, and never let anyone ever make you doubt it. This person has left your life for a reason, and though it may take a while, you'll learn to appreciate that one day. Don't give anyone the power to make you feel like you aren't worth something. They left but they did NOT take you with them. You are here and you will thrive after this. Find your strength and embrace it fully and nothing will ever be able to knock you down again.
It's okay to be a little selfish during this time because you need to do whatever you need to do in order to find peace and to feel whole again. If something is taking away from your happiness, get rid of it. There is too much good in this world to surround yourself with things that make you feel anything less than amazing.
So, who am I without YOU? I am strong. I am beautiful. I am happy. I am good enough. I am me. I am free.
