Where would you be if that person hadn’t walked out of your life?

We all have someone. A family member, a friend, or even an ex. We have all had someone in our life walk away, or have made us walk away. In that moment, you couldn’t breathe. You were paralyzed. How does one continue when you lose such important people? This isn’t just a old pair of shoes you can replace with a quick trip to the mall. No, these are loved ones that we have had to say goodbye to.

I myself have had my fair share of goodbyes, and something that keeps me awake at night is what life might be like if they had stuck around. Where would I be? Who would I be? How different would things be if your relationship hadn’t gone south? It’s a sad thought, but I’m not the first one to dwell on it late into the night.

Sometimes we are angry. We curse the day those people walked into our lives. We mentally scream and scold ourselves for letting those people creep so close to our hearts, just for them to walk away with pieces scattered on the ground.

A mix of emotions follow. Sadness, regret, confusion, all of them leaving us in a tailspin. We feel lost and forgotten. As though as if we don’t deserve to have those special people in our lives. It’s scary, because in that moment, we can feel so desperately alone.

Here is what I want you to think about; who you are in this very moment is the most important part. Despite the hardships life has gotten you to this very point and has created the beautiful person you are. You got to this moment in life without them, and you can continue to push through without them. The people of this world are so much stronger than we realize. We are capable of success to the highest degree, but we let the negative in life weigh us down. Those people walked away and you overcame that. You are stronger because of that.

I know it hurts, and it’s going to for a while. Time will pass though, and you will heal. Eventually days will go by without a thought of that person. Of course though, there will be a moment you remember, and there will be a slight pain in your heart, but you can stand there and say I moved on. Those people are our past’s and the past can’t be changed. The past is what got us to our present, which is determining our future. There is a reason those people walked away, but hold your head up high because none of that matters. Right now you are who you are because of it, and that is something truly beautiful.