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Where Did All The Good Men Go?

Take me to dinner, not to your bedroom.

Jordan Kirkwood
Jul 13, 2017
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Do you ever just look at the dating pool of our generation and wonder, where did all the good men go?

Now, I'm not calling all men bad or anything, but seriously, where are the gentlemen who ask women ON dates before asking them TO date? Where are the men who want to meet the parents of the girl they are seeing? Where are the men who are willing to treat you with some dignity and respect?

In a generation where all we want are quick hookups and one-time things, dating is almost a thing of the past. Young people watch shows like "The Bachelor" and "The Bachelorette," and think that this is love; that love is seeing a person for what they are, not who they are. People fall in love with someone's looks, money, or title, before they even know who this person truly is.

Where did chivalry go? When did it become more acceptable to have sex with a person before going on a first date with them? It's ironic because we live in a society were I see people say they will be "single forever" or "forever alone", when in fact, you are bringing that upon yourself by the way you "date", or because of the lack of good men. If a hook-up is a date, you will probably never find someone to be in a relationship with. It's also really sad when someone is looking for a relationship, and everyone they meet just wants a casual one-time thing.

In high school and college, I am seeing more people hooking up now that ever. Is this the new "date"? Hooking up has so many downfalls to it. There is more of a risk for STD's because people most likely are hooking up (having sex) with multiple people, they are no longer loyal to just one person. There is also more of a chance that someone will get their heart broken. One person in the hookup might start to develop feelings for the other, when the other is just into having a one-time thing.

Would you rather be in a relationship where you can count on your significant other and they will be there for you no matter what, or have a one night stand with some guy you found on Tinder and you can never rely on him once the morning comes?

Since when did it become okay for a casual hookup to replace a date? Will you be the one to continue this on-going trend, or will you do something to bring back the classic date?


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