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When You're The One Who Is "Too Nice"

"Have a back bone."

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When You're The One Who Is "Too Nice"
Hayley Cooper

We are taught from a young age to treat everyone with respect and to always be nice because you never know what someone has gone through, but sometimes we become too nice.

I have always struggled with being too nice to people, even those who don't deserve it. Being too nice to people may not seem like a problem, but it is. You get pushed over, stomped on, and played like a fiddle. Being too nice to people gets you nowhere. Something I have always struggled with and continue to struggle with is "having a back bone." I don't speak up when I should, I don't tell people how I really feel, and I am always to concerned about how someone would feel if I were to do such things.

If there is one thing in this life that I wish I could get better at it is saying how I really feel and not worrying about putting other people before myself. If you are someone who is too nice to people or someone who puts everyone else before yourself, please don't take the path I have taken. Speak up for yourself, tell people how you feel, have a back bone, and don't worry about what others will feel. You are your first priority! That is a lesson that took me far too long to realize. We are always concerned about how our loved ones would feel if we truly told them how we felt, and most of the time a white lie is alright, but don't get to the point to where white lies are all you tell to spare their feelings.

How are they supposed to know what they're doing wrong unless someone tells them? Being nice to people is great, but being too nice to people can cause all sorts of problems that can easily be avoided.

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