When I met my husband, I was not interested.

When I met my husband, I had my eye on someone else. It just so happens, that person had not given me the time of day.

When I met my husband, I wanted to get married deep down in my heart but I had practically given up hope because of my track record with guys.

When I met my husband, I had no idea that he was the man I would marry.

You see, all I had ever heard was about how people “just knew” their relationships would turn out to be end game but…

I was not sure.

I was a total wreck when my future husband swooped in. We’d been friends for a while and he knew that I had been played in a horrible way. He knew I had been hurt more than once by guys and that I had been engaged before. He also knew that I was not interested in a relationship at all but, over time, he won me over by being real and pursuing me in the most beautiful way. By the time we started dating, I knew I loved him but, I still was not sure. I was anticipating hurt and rejection and lived most of our dating relationship in fear. I spent a lot of time in my previous relationships looking at the end game and had learned my lesson. I refused to look too far down the road. I lived with the “I’m not sure” mentality when it came to anything beyond where we were at.

I felt all alone when I would say, “I’m not sure it’s end game,” or “I wish I knew what the future held for us!” I felt like no one understood but once we were engaged, I learned that there are many people that, while dating, just are not sure if they are with the person they will marry or not.

I still had 'I’m not sure' moments throughout our engagement and wedding planning process. By that time, I knew it was a normal feeling to have. Once it finally hit me and I realized that we were end game, the ‘I’m not sure’ moments, vanished.

If you’re currently dating someone, seriously or casually, here’s my advice to you: Don’t worry about “knowing” what the end game will be. You’re going to waste your time worrying about something that genuinely does not matter at the present moment. If end game is your focus, you could end up hurting your significant other or getting hurt yourself. Don’t worry if you are not sure that they are the one yet… just love and be loved!!!

Sometimes, people know early on in a relationship that their significant other is the one but other times, it isn't realized until he’s down on one knee or, when she’s walking down the aisle. Don’t be ashamed of having doubts and not being 100% sure about a relationship. It’s not our job to know the will of God. It’s our job to walk it out and trust His leading, His voice and our relationship with Him!