College is a difficult time to maintain friendship ties. It becomes overwhelming, and in the midst of the hustle of becoming independent and meeting new friends, it’s easy to lose your closest friendships. It seems that friendships are more of a convenience unless you truly care about them.
To find a friendship that is easy to keep is a rarity in this society. Cherish it because many seek for one. It is pure gold and treasure if you find it.
People make new friends, they don’t want to put in the effort, they get into a relationship. It happens to the best of us.
Know that you are not being replaced.
There was a reason for this. It is for the best because this “friend” has shown you that they aren’t actually all in the friendship like you initially were.
Whether it is because they have found new friends that they call “their people” or they have found their person, be thankful. They are achieving their happiness, just as you should be.
It can leave you feeling lonely. You feel as if you have no one else to make plans with, and that they don't like or appreciate you anymore. But know that good will come out of this for you. New friends will be brought to you. Put yourself out there. Meet new people. Don’t sit around waiting for them because you deserve friends that will actually cherish your presence.
Cherish the times you have with your friends, and be sure they know you appreciate and adore them. If you become close enough with them, then call them out when you don’t see them as much. Judge by the reaction whether or not they feel the friendship is the same for them as it is for you.
Friendship is a two-way street, and as much as we all enjoy being there for our beloved friends, they need to be there for you as well. If they aren’t, then do not hesitate to gradually move on and start spending more time with others.
Friendships can expire just like relationships- they can become toxic and abusive.
Don’t let it get that way. You be the judge of who you want your friends to be.
But in my opinion, friendships are meant to build you up, not tear you down.
“A friend loves at all times.” - Proverbs 17:17
