We all have made and lost friends. Some losses and gains were worse or better than others. A few people are still in touch with their first best friend from kindergarten. The lucky ones are those of us who have found our person, the best of best friends.
When you give a girl her person, you give her a friend first. You'll exchange phone numbers, and every text message will use proper grammar. There will be dinner dates and grocery shopping and homework help. Every type of relationship starts with basic friendship, including this one.
When you give a girl her person, you take away the feeling of awkwardness. Soon after the dinner dates start, the walls start to come down. First, you'll make the mistake of eating something gross or messy, and she'll only laugh with you, not at you. Then you'll start sharing embarrassing stories, and the goal will be to top the other's tale. Soon enough, you'll invade every inch of her personal space when she's on the phone with her mom, and she'll be completely accepting of the fact that you fell asleep on her--again.
When you give a girl her person, you give her every late-night meal or snack she could ever want. This comes with the territory of invading personal space. Sometimes you need someone to take you to get raisin bread at 9 PM on a Wednesday night. Other times you'll be partying in her room and need pizza. If she's your person, she'll obviously order it for you. Your person is the only person you can actually share food with and not be (too) mad about it.
When you give a girl her person, you remove the realm of judgment. This is why it's completely acceptable to order pizza at 1 AM and eat the whole thing. Not having to fear judgment is exactly why you can tell her about the at-least-ten-years-older guy you met at the club. She'll have her opinions, yes, but only because she wants what's best for you. Even when you go against her valid, "No," she'll never say, "I told you so."
When you give a girl her person, you give her a shoulder to cry on, hand to hold, and person to call no matter what. It can be 11 PM when you're having an anxiety attack, and she'll be at your side in less than two minutes. It can be two-hours-long phone calls that start at midnight and include snack breaks without hanging up. Or it can be 10 AM after a rough Friday night, and you'll take her on the worst adventure ever--and you'll both love it. Regardless of time or place, your person is always there.
Most importantly, when you give a girl her person, you give her a reason to never give up. My person and I have been through hell and back. We've fought, spent weeks without talking, and seen each other at our absolute worst. No matter what, we always come back. We never give up on each other, and sometimes that's the best reason to not give up on ourselves.
