Summer is the season to be free, adventurous, and special. Everyone hopes and dreams of having a magical and romantic summer. Most girls want to have a summer fling. They want someone romantically to be there to waste their summer with. They want to know they have someone to call if they feel like just watching a movie or going hiking. Girls like the thought of a summer fling. If you are like me I am a hopeless romantic, and I crave for the scenes in the movies: falling in love in summer and the rest is history. But honestly the one thing I have figured out is that summer flings almost always end as summer flings.
Summer for college students is an escape from reality. You go back to your hometown or stay where your college is and you have a new life for 3 months. You forget about the boy that broke your heart and start fresh. Every girl loves summer. You start fresh, but you are also looking for someone to help you start over. You look for someone that will make your summer magical. Most likely the other person is looking for the same thing. The best part is anything can happen in summer. You can rekindle a love you had in the past or even find a new person that you have never known before. You like knowing everyone knows you guys are together.
When finding a summer fling you look for someone you know will make your summer the best summer. You look for someone who will make your heart glow and make all your summer desires come true. You look for someone who will make you smile and laugh. You do not want anything to be too serious or at least not at first. You do not want to be tied down; you are just looking for someone to be there when you need them to be. Which you both agree on because you have the mindset of “ this is just a summer fling.”
The mindset of having a summer fling is knowing it will end. You both have the mindset that this will only be a summer thing. You do not want anything serious and you're set on the fact that I like this person and I want to share memories, but I know after 3 months it will be done. You want to be close to this person but not too close. You accidentally get to know this boy and he accidentally gets to know you. You chase after the thought of falling in love in summer, but you know you can’t. You like the idea, but you know in you heart you can’t let yourself. So you tell yourself this is just a summer fling, do not get hurt.
After everything though, you most likely do get hurt. You like the game, you like having him when you want, and pretending like you do not care when he does something else. You try not to care too much. It’s the chase you crave knowing he has the same mindset as you. You both play each other’s feelings. You are afraid there might be a chance that you guys could have an actual relationship. Deep down you know you don’t want to lose him; you do not like the idea of just a summer fling, but you know that day will come when summer ends.
When summer ends you do not want to admit it and try to hide it but you really did care for him. You pretend that it doesn’t bother you that you didn’t win the game. You have a strong friendship from all the memories you share together. Late night talks, dancing to music for hours, movie nights, river days, and the stupid jokes you have together. You try to forget all the romantic memories to make you feel better. You try to justify why you let yourself fall for a summer fling. You want to blame him for making you feel this way but it is really your own fault. You question if anything was ever real between you both. You are afraid what the answer will be if you ask him. You wonder if he ever thought more of you. You ask yourself why some girls do get lucky and fall in love and the rest is history with their summer fling. Summer is ending and you are going back to reality. You have to say bye to the guy who made your entire summer. You feel like the boy owes more to you than just goodbye, but you know all you are getting is just that. You knew you did not want a serious summer fling but you did not know how hard ending it actually would be.
Even if it was easy for him to say goodbye, I promise he will not forget the summer he had with you. Summer flings end at summer because of your mindset you created for yourself believing it will end. You look for someone who you know will let you go at the end. You find someone who likes the game just as much as you. You found the guy that made summer the best summer for you but in a way that you knew it was too good to be true. You manage to find someone that you know you could never be with when you go back to reality. There might be something between you both that you will never find again. You might both actually belong together, but you are both too smart to let you heart be open. Now summer is gone and you will always thank him for a good summer but you always remember what you never really had. You do not know if you will keep in touch over the years or see each other again. Most likely you will not but you will have peace with it. You turn off the emotions and go on with life. Summer is gone and so is he.
