Freaked Out

Insecure

Neurotic

Emotional

Every girl says it. They may say it once a day, once a month, or even on occasion, but when it’s said it has a certain meaning, a certain connotation. When your friend or even boyfriend asks you “What’s wrong?” “I’m fine” is the go-to answer. It’s usually said in a curt fashion with a hint of despair. She doesn’t want to talk about her feelings. You may have hurt her in more ways than one. So then, she may want to dwell about it on her own. You can see it in her eyes; they are somber and oh-so-revealing. They may even tear up because she’s trying to hide her vulnerability. She wants to be strong. She wants to prove it to you that she can handle it. That she is independent.

But, when you realize this “I’m fine,” pick and pry, and bother her until she cracks because she wants to see that you care. She wants to see that she means something to you. She wants to know that you’re by her side when she is having a bad day. She wants to see that you don’t run away at the sight of emotion or attitude. She needs you, even if it’s to sit with her quietly because in reality she is not fine. It’s a cover up, maybe she is good at shielding her emotion on the outside, but on the inside she’s tearing herself apart. Find that inside.

Don’t leave her until that “I’m fine.” turns into an “I feel better.” Don’t ever let her go to bed telling you she’s fine, leave her going to bed smiling because she knows you care.