It’s happened to all of us at least once, maybe more if you tend to be attracted to jerks. You start crushing on yet another person, but this time it seemed different. Conversation flowed easily, you had a lot of traits and interests in common, and you even felt a connection. When you weren’t together, you switched off texting each other first. Although you didn’t text everyday, it was enough to keep the crush going. Until one day, you text your new crush something along the lines of: “hey!/how are you/how’s your week going/*insert inside joke from one of our past conversations” and you don’t get a response.
He’s only a crush, so you can’t get too anxious over it because then you might seem crazy, right? One hour passes, then two more, then a whole day and by now, you’ve completely given up on him and (sort of) moved on until, finally, he responds. His response will usually go along the lines of: I’m sorry yesterday was so busy/I was so busy/I forgot. You want to smile and respond. You want to ignore the fact that “he forgot”. And most of the time, you do.
Well, after I had experienced this once or twice as I "forgot" about his mistake just like he forgot to text me back, I've decided to move on from anyone who does this to me. And you should, too.
Sure, this might sound crazy. We’re not in any sort of relationship or tied in any way, so there’s no obligation to answer my text. But let’s logically think about this for a second. We’re all busy. We all work, take classes, participate in activities, watch Netflix in the wee hours of night and maintain a social life. We all just lead busy lives. But if we’re being completely honest with ourselves, are we ever so busy that we can't take a second to look at our phone, answer a few texts, catch up on Instagram posts, Snapchat people back, etc.? Nope, we all find time to do this. Sure, you might answer a few texts an hour or two late, maybe be way behind on your Instagram feed, but you can easily find the time to care for the people who have texted you and answer.
If he decides to ignore your text for over 24 hours, that’s probably a sign that he does not care. It sounds harsh, I know. But again, thinking logically, it takes less than a minute to type out, “I’m sorry, this is a really busy day for me, let me text you tomorrow.” The point is not that he decided not to talk to you, the point is that he couldn’t even send that type of message out of courtesy.
We all deserve someone who cares. Even in the early stages, when they’re just a crush, if they are showing signs that you aren’t important enough to answer or they only talk to you when it’s convenient for them, maybe they just aren’t important enough to be in your life.
