Things were going so well. You talked every single day and couldn't wait to pass each other in the hallway and feel those silly little butterflies. Every little glance your way sent your stomach into a frenzy, every time your hands touched you couldn't help but smile... but then something changed. There were less glances, and opportunities to spend time together disappeared. He became distant, and you were left wondering what you did wrong. Your friends told you that you were simply overthinking, but you knew that something was up.
And that's when you discovered that he chose her and not you.
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Everything that you were once so sure of now comes crashing down, and you can't decide if you're more hurt than angry. You probably feel as though you weren't/aren't enough, that no matter what you do it never adds up. You feel weak for crying and you feel so guilty for being sad, and you constantly apologize to your friends for being upset. But let me tell you right now that it's okay. You have every right to be upset and hurt, and you have every right to cry. There's no need to apologize to your friends, because if they're real, they won't mind.
Chances are that the guy you fell for honestly just had a lot going on internally that he had to deal with. I feel like we as women often forget that guys sort of lead a double life. Most guys don't show their emotions and they simply don't cry. I am a firm believer that crying can be healing and it can help us move on from certain situations, and since most guys don't cry, they never really move on. That's my theory, anyways.
So my point is, maybe he never really moved on from her. He left that life behind and then you came along and changed his world. But maybe they reconnected, and he chose her. And as hard as it is to be the girl who was "second choice" or not even a choice at all, we have to remember that he had a life before meeting you.
Maybe he really was a nice guy and never meant to hurt you, or maybe things didn't end as well as they should've. Whatever your situation is, you need to remember that his decision does not devalue your worth.
You are beautiful. You are incredible. You are unique. Just because he chose her does not mean that you don't deserve roses, that you don't deserve to go on cute and adventurous dates, that you don't deserve to have your hand held. Because, my darling, you deserve all of that and so much more. There is nothing wrong with you, and if he ever made you feel that way then he's not the one for you. Your worth, your value... it is not something to be questioned. It is something to be cherished.
Someday, he'll look back and see what he lost. He'll kick himself everyday for letting you go, for letting you be the one that got away. He will be the one who lost something that day when he made his decision, not you.
So, you sweet, beautiful girl...cry some more, eat a little more chocolate than necessary, and when the time is right, get back on your throne and continue to be the amazing person you've always been. Stay humble, be kind, and forget about him. Don't go looking on social media for her, she doesn't matter and she never will.
Sure there are Prince Charmings out there, but for now, be the queen of your own kingdom, and one day, you'll find a man who is worthy enough to be your king.
