Recently I got out of a seven-month-long relationship. While it was no surprise my family was ecstatic with that decision, what was shocking was the lack of understanding over my initial sadness over the loss of the relationship. In the grand scheme of things, seven-months is no time at all, but as my longest relationship yet it felt like I had lost a decade of my life to this boy. Think, half a summer and a whole semester of fighting and riding an emotional roller coaster, you become almost addicted to the drama and consistency of that person. It is only normal to feel sad or lost without this new way of living.
Don't get me wrong I was relieved to finally be free of that life, but I had grown so used to that day to day exhaustion I didn't know what to do without it. At that moment I needed my over baring, but loving, families support. To be told "I told you so" was not what I needed to hear. Though my mother was amazing throughout the whole situation, the rest of my family definitely landed on my shit list.
While the relationship itself was bad, my family mad it worse. Once a significant other know they are disliked, it is hard to convince them to spend the day at your parents. I won't say my family was cold, because they weren't. They were just honest about their feelings towards the relationship. Most people think the moment your family disapproves, you'll end it, but that's not reality. A lot of people stay, they hope they can change their opinions or show them the "real" person they are dating. Speaking from experience, that won't happen.
Never forget, sometimes your father really does know best and you should follow that advice. Sadly, most people, like me, have to figure these things out on their own. Relationships are never easy and without support, they will most likely fail. What I've decided to take from this experience is that you should listen to those around you, more often than not they have your best interest at heart. Also, remember boys and girls, guys are just as manipulative and crazy as girls get labeled.
