You know, there’s a saying I’ve always heard throughout my life that says, “Whatever is meant to be will be.” I always took that quote to heart because there are a lot of things that have happened in my life where I try to say to myself “hey, it is what it is.” I’ve used that ideology through school, work and even with family. But I never thought I’d see the day I would have to use it with friends. I don’t know whether it’s the fact that I’ve always been closer with my friends than my actual family or the fact of me being naïve, but I never thought I would have to cut off a close friend.

You know the crazy part about it all? It wasn’t because it became toxic either. It’s not like we had a big argument or anything like that. It’s just that well…we just grew apart that’s all. You see, when some people have different goals in life, they go down different paths. You might think there isn’t anything wrong with that and your friendship can still be the same, but sometimes that’s not always the case. As some friends grow older, so do our mindsets. Some of us become more mature in life and realize we have to grow up into adults, while others really don’t get it yet. I think that’s what really happened.

Along the way, we also realize that the friends we thought had our backs and were there to “support” us end up not being as supportive as we thought at all. If someone is my homie or bro, then I expect them to have my back or support me no matter what, and I do the same for them. But if they don’t support the dream, they shouldn’t be on your team. It kind of sucks huh?

I’m not here to make you feel sad or anything. I’m here to let you know a sad but realistic truth: some friends don’t always stay with us in life. But you know what? That’s okay.

There’s another saying that I’ve taken to heart in life. People come into your life as a lesson or a blessing. Either they’ll be there to help uplift you or there to teach you a valuable lesson on what not to do. That’s just the way it is.

Personally, there isn’t any bad blood between those friends either. It was just our time to go down separate paths in life and hope that we cross paths again. I had to learn that lesson this week with a friend of mine. I’m just glad I got to know this now rather than later on in life. Later homie. We had some times. Peace.