Well sorority ladies, if your chapter is like my chapter, then you just finished recruitment and got a great new member class. Or maybe you are a New Member, and you just found your home. Either way, now that the excitement and chaos of Bid Day is fading away, the hunt for Bigs/Littles is on.
I genuinely hope that you can all find Bigs and Littles as amazing as mine. I hope your Big can be someone who you can look up to, someone who will buy you ice cream when you're sad, and just someone to be there for you through it all. I hope you find a Little who adores you, and who needs you as a role model. Most of all, I hope you find that sisterhood that I found in my Big and Little.
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It's easy to get caught up in things when looking for your future Big/Little, but there are a few things you should really be looking for.
Let's start with the New Members who are searching for their Bigs. Remember that they all want you. It is considered a rite of passage to sorority girls to take a Little. They're all trying to impress you because they want to be a Big. So don't get caught up in who will buy you the best presents, or who will craft you the best crafts. Instead look for someone you want to be more like. You will be spending a ton of time with your Big and she should be someone you can see yourself learning from.
Pick a Big who shares similar interests as you; don't pick a Big just because you know she'll buy you drinks at the bar (unless that is your shared interest, then go for it). Think about who you see being in your wedding party. That is the girl you should pick as your Big, because if you do it right, your Big will quickly become your person. Being a Little is easy. There's not much advice I can give you about being a good Little, just be yourself and your Big will love you unconditionally.
Now active members, let's talk about what to look for in a Little. Just like it's easy for New Members to be swept up in the glam of gifts and presents, girls on the Little hunt can be caught up in wanting the "prettiest" or the "most fun" Little. Lucky for me, I ended up having the prettiest, most fun Little, but that's not why I picked her. I wanted my Little because of her heart. She is a kind, warm, and loving person and I want to be more like her. My Little is just as much of a role model to me as my Big is. And I really think it is important to look for a role model in a Little just as much as in a Big.
Maybe I just got really lucky, but I think it worked out so well for me because I knew what I was looking for. So while you're on the Little or Big hunt, remember that every sister is totally fabulous and that each one of them would make a great Little/Big. Whomever you get as your Big or Little will be great. So don't stress over this process. Everyone in your chapter shares core values, but it's okay to look deeper and find the sisters that will help you in the best possible way, and in doing that, you can't go wrong when picking your Big or Little.
