Today in class the question was asked if being the dominant figure in a relationship is a woman's top priority. The topic set various people into different directions and moods.
Everyone came to the consensus that this was indeed one of the main wants that a woman craves.
The majority of men in the area were offended by the decision; they thought it was wrong for a woman to desire such things.
The women in the room took opposite approaches. They described how women are always right and should have an overall say no matter what situation is at hand.
I did not agree with any of the choices.
A relationship is a mutual bond, each person should feel heard and important. No one should be put down or unempowered.
If a relationship becomes a constant battle of who is right, it is toxic and one that you should probably stay away from.
This being said, I do not disagree with the fact that dominance is an enormous goal for a woman. She’s not greedy or egocentric for this, though.
We’ve grown up in a world that puts us down and makes assumptions based on sex.
Although we do live in a progressive society, there are still major aspects that are hidden behind words, aspects that degrade and diminish who we are.
A woman may want to express her power because a man has never asked a woman to perform a task and then be told, “I see who wears the pants in the relationship.”
A man has never had to rethink his decision about what he has on because he’s scared that it will attract attention from the wrong people.
A man has never been asked why he got so drunk rather than, “are you OK?” or “it’s not your fault.” in regards to sexual assault.
These small aspects have enormous impacts on women. Some factors have become second nature, watching where we put our drinks down or making sure we don’t walk around alone when it’s dark outside.
When we live in a world that hands out so much oppression, it’s only human nature to want more than what we are being offered.
The fact that people look down upon woman for wanting this is the main problem.
